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0:00 Introduction and host chat
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2:00 Host Chat
Review of the Poly Weekly Book Club that discussed Anapol’s Polyamory: the New Love Without Limits

5:45 Five Places to Meet Poly People
This stemmed from the book club discussion–when Anapol’s book was written, poly people used to have to place ads and interview potential tribe members. We should all consider ourselves damn lucky that we have come into polyamory during the age of the marvelous interwebz, when we can easily Google “polyamory” and find definitions, explanations, how-to’s and groups that meet in real life to find like-minded folks.

First, look for groups in your area. Look first for like-minded folks in a support network in your area, not just potential partners to date. It will be difficult to find poly partners if you’re not out as poly to some extent. Be brave and meet other poly people first, before looking for sexual partners. Then…

  1. Use the internet to find poly meetup groups in your area. Go and meet people and ask questions.
  2. Science fiction conventions. Seriously, guys, there’s something about exploring alternative realities that makes sci-fi geeks poly-friendly. If you’re not brave enough to go to a convention, go to and do a search in your area for whatever your specific taste of sci-fi geekery might be.
  3. BDSM and kink events. Kinky people tend to be familiar with non-monogamy, probably because negotiating the fulfillment of someone’s fetish outside a relationship isn’t all that uncommon.
  4. Pagan circles and events. Drumming circles, pagan events, Burning Man, trance events–these are all alternative spiritualities and will have poly- and poly-friendly folks in them. But please, don’t fake interest in this type of spirituality just to find poly people.
  5. Renaissance faires and SCA events. Not quite sure why, but medieval re-enacters and rennies tend to be open to polyamory. Maybe it’s the costuming? Men in kilts?

23:30 Wrap-up
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Commenting area

  1. I’d add roleplaying to that list, though it might fall under “sci-fi conventions”. LARPs (Live Action Role Playing games) and other such geeky pursuits seem to have a lot of poly or at least poly-friendly folk.

    There’s a reason the LJ community bipolypagangeek (short for “Bi Poly Kinky Pagan Gamer Geeks”) has over a thousand members, I guess!

  2. Lynoure May 22, 2008 at 2:33 am · ·

    I don’t think it’s necessary to know polys in order to find polyamorous love. People being sensible, openminded and honest is plenty enough if you are patient enough to find out what work for you all.

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