What does a poly newbie need to know?

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2:00 Announcements

The forums will be shut down for a few weeks while we figure out a better way to give our moderators a rest from dealing with daily spam. Like the forums? Let us know! Don’t care? Um… still let us know!

4:30 Topic: Advice for Poly Newbies

Minx and Anita Wagner give advice for those new to polyamory. Recorded at Polycamp Northwest, a fantastic event near Seattle with 20% poly content and the rest is community-driven.

  • Meet poly people in the community and ask for advice
  • Read The Ethical Slut and Opening Up
  • Create a safe space to discuss and process reactions and emotions
  • Have a strong desire for self-knowledge
  • Avoid the “kid in the candy store” mentality when you first try poly
  • No major life decisions during NRE
  • More focus on communication, less on hard and fast rules

31:30 Comments on inviting Minx or Anita to speak

34:45 Feedback

Feedback on episode 281 on the Dan Savage article “Infidelity will keep us together.”


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  1. loved this episode. ‘this is a really adult themed podcast..about communication, and honesty’… lol. looking forward to next episode.

  2. Regarding the forums… is it at least possible for you to put them into a read-only sort of mode so people can at least browse what’s already there while you all try to find a solution to the spam?

  3. Cunning Minx September 25, 2011 at 8:03 pm · ·


    Thanks for the idea. I’ll look into that.

  4. Hello – is there a transcript for those of us who are harder of hearing?

    • Unfortunately, the cost of transcribing the podcast is cost-prohibitive (think $30+ per episode!). Would earbuds or a volume increase help?

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