The Sister Wives lawsuit and how it affects polyamorists

Alan from Poly in the Media covers the crux of the Sister Wives lawsuit–and why polyamorists should care

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1:00 Announcements

2:25 Suing with the Sister Wives

Alan from Poly in Media shares the details of the Sister Wives lawsuit and point out that this is as close to a lawsuit for the right to privacy within a poly relationship as we will ever find in the mainstream media.

  • Kodi Brown and his four wives’ family structure; only Kodi and Meri are legally married; the rest live together and call each other “sister wives” but are not legally married
  • The difference from other poly court cases that some poly groups have been leery of aligning with
  • The constitutional right/issue being questioned here–NOT the right to marry but the right to cohabitate lovingly in peace.
  • The reaction within the poly leadership community
  • What are the benefits of poly leaders aligning with and supporting this case? What are the drawbacks?
  • What is happening with the case right now

Links: Sister Wives challenge anti-polygamy law

Poly Events

21:00 Book Review: Resident Aliens

Book review by Kurt on the Joe Ashby Porter novel. Not a book to run out and buy, but a book with poly characters.

24:45 Feedback

  • Matt from Detroit rants on marriage, what it really means and adding preachers and legislation into marriage.
  • Lissie in Cleveland asks for more information on the kinky bed and breakfast in Michigan
  • Jeannie in Vermont comments on Sister Wives and asks why polys wouldn’t promote polygamous pride in Utah—she would.

47:20 Wrap-up

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  1. the link to the audio file seems to be broken in this episode.

  2. Fixed it. Had an extra “html::” in the code. All better!

  3. I watch this show sometimes and I cannot even explain why.I really upsets me most of the time. While watching I ask myself: ” How can the women think that this is ok?” I would not be able to share my husband with anyone else. would you? What about the kids? Are they happy?

  4. Strapon–

    Well, I do share my boyfriend and am glad that his wife feels the same way. Not as much of an issue for kids as long as the home is attentive and loving.

  5. I’m late to this ball game, but I was just going back through episodes on my iPod that I either hadn’t listed to or wanted o listen to again and a comment Alan made about the relationship of the Brown’s relationship and why they are not breaking any laws in Utah. Alan made the comment that like a polyamorous situation, the Kody has a wife and three girlfriends, that he is not legally married to all four women, therefore he is not breaking the law. However, “Utah 76-7-101 – Bigamy” reads:

    (1) A person is guilty of bigamy when, knowing he has a husband or wife or knowing the other person has a husband or wife, the person purports to marry another person or cohabits with another person.
    (2) Bigamy is a felony of the third degree.

    Amended by Chapter 296, 1997 General Session

    So yes, Kody Brown could be prosecuted under Utah’s bigamy law because he uses the term “wife” when referring to Janelle, Christine and Robyn and additionally they live with him and he has children with them while married to Meri.

    Alan was right about the Utah Attorney General Mark Shurtleff’s office stating that they do not have any interest in prosecuting bigamy cases and are more concerned about the welfare of the women and children involved in such situations and will prosecute for sex with minors, spousal abuse, welfare fraud, etc. None of which has been found in Kody’s case even after a very thorough investigation by the Utah County District Attorney’s office.

    The way it sits, the law is still on the books regardless of whether or not Shurtleff will prosecute bigamy cases. There is no telling if someone who succeeds him will, though.

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