How does a poly professional woman focused on her career make time and energy to date at all?

Audio clip: Adobe Flash Player (version 9 or above) is required to play this audio clip. Download the latest version here. You also need to have JavaScript enabled in your browser.

Download the mp3 directly


Under 18? Stop listening now and visit

1:00 Host chat

9:20 Topic: How does a busy poly professional woman find time to date?

A listener writes in to ask how a full-time woman who puts her career first and still handles the home responsibilities can find dating anything other than exhausting. Also, what to do when your partner has more free time and energy to date, causing dating envy.

  1. First, sympathy—I work for a startup and have also made work my priority, so it is very hard to find energy to date after putting all your passion into your work.
  2. Second, evaluate your priorities. Do a goal-setting session using Your Best Year Yet to establish your priorities for the next 12 months. If dating isn’t that valuable to you and doesn’t make the list, treat it like any other type of jealousy and act accordingly. If it is, try making 1-hour lunch date “chemistry tests” or make weekly OKCupid online vetting nights (with wine and a girlfriend!) to get started.
  3. Third, take immediate action. It sounds like the chore split was created when you had more free time, so redistribute household chores to give you more time and energy for self-care and other essential/fun priorities.
  4. Finally, it might be helpful to listen to the episodes on introverts and on jealousy.
  5. And bonus: “sleep is the new sex” It’s the ultimate luxury and vice; treat it as a precious resource!

25:00 Thanks

Thanks to Paul for his donation! And welcome Olaf to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

26:00 Wrapup

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!


Comments are closed.