Sex addiction as a celebrity diagnosis is all the rage. But is it real?

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1:00 News and host chat

5:00 Interview: the Myth of Sex Addiction

Dr. David Ley is a clinical psychologist and the author of a new book on sex addiction to be released next week!

  • First book was Insatiable Wives about permissive female infidelity and the hotwife lifestyle
  • Why the book was necessary
  • Is “sex addiction” just a label for celebrities who have more sex than me?
  • If sex is a biological imperative, how can it be an addiction?
  • Why has this arisen in our culture now, this idea that people can be addicted to sex? What brought this about?
  • TigressBooks asks: but is this behavior typical of alpha male? Not pathological, but personality type?
  • Nissyen asks: there are lots of compulsive behaviors. Does sex gets the addiction label because it’s so culturally taboo to be promiscuous?
  • Irish8m asks: isnt any action/behavior done to a degree that pushes other aspects of life out of balance an “addiction,” including sex?

References: the History of Nymphomania

39:00 Happy Poly Moment

  • Kit shares a happy poly moment about his wife getting a date she wanted
  • Funny poly moment from Clint and Kat in New Zealand

44:00 Wrapup

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  1. I listened to that interview on the bus today, and it was fantastic! I never thought of the connection between the concepts of nymphomania and sex addiction before, but it makes a lot of sense that they’re both just different flavours of pathologization of behavior society doesn’t approve of.

  2. Cunning Minx March 7, 2012 at 4:24 pm · ·

    Thanks for the comment! Yeah, “sex addiction” is a label that does seem intended to pathologize male behavior and cultivate the culture of fear of male sexuality. Seems to me the solution to male “sex addiction” is empowering women to talk about (and admit that they like) sex.

  3. Thanks to Minx for tipping me off to this program, I’m a bit behind as a listener. Unfortunately this program, though certainly well intended and accurate as far as it goes, does not tell the entire story. Call it whatever you want, there are more members of the alternative sexual communities than I ever imagined dealing with compulsive, problematic behaviors around sex. This is not just somebody who likes to have more sex than our puritanical society thinks is legitimate. As someone who is now married to someone who fights this problem on an ongoing basis, I know for a fact that there is a LOT more to it than that, and it’s a real shame to perpetuate the denial of this in our zeal to defend our sex-positivity. What I am most disappointed about is that David Ley didn’t say this. If he is to be truly credible on this subject, then he simply can’t leave out the people for whom scientifically documented and diagnosable dysfunction that manifests as problematic sexual behavior truly exists. No, it’s not “sex addiction,” but it IS a repetitious cycle the sufferer finds *impossible* to break on their own without some kind of therapeutic approach. Maybe that sheds some much-needed light on why somebody decided to call it an addiction in the first place?

  4. I can also verify that sex addiction is very real. When a person uses sex like a drug and feels compelled to get off at a subway station just so he/she can masturbate in the bathroom because they couldn’t get wait until they got home…there is nothing sexually positive about those kinds of behaviors. And more just like that arise from being addicted to the drugs that release in your brain during the act of sex.

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