How to welcome that awesome non-primary into your couple and keep the relationship healthy and the non-primary happy and respected

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1:00 Announcements and host chat

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4:00 Topic: How to treat non-primaries well

Aggie of the SoloPoly blog crowdsourced an article. She asked non-primary partners what they considered to be kind and considerate treatment by their partners, usually people in a couple. The results were informative and include a long list of do's and a short list of don'ts—see all the info on this living document of How to Treat Non-Primaries Well.

40:00 Happy Poly Moment

Roue shares a happy poly moment about a partner coming home.

42:00 Wrap up

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  1. At a time when my primary and I broke up and my non primary was panicking about things changing, this came at a perfect moment. Thank you so much for this.

    UK Poly xx

  2. Almost the same thing happened to me Jazz, except “my non primary” was kinda panicking me 😐

  3. I absolutely loved this episode, it made me feel really good about my current primary relationship, and realize some of the problems that caused problems in some of my other relationships!
    I wrote my own blog post on this topic here:

  4. EXCELLENT podcast! I know I’m a few episodes behind, but we just started a relationship with a new non-primary partner who lives a few hours away and after several relationships that fizzled and popped, this was an episode I needed to hear!

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