Should you leave a relationship because others tell you to?
1:30 Topic: When to bow out
K has been in a relationship for over two years for over 40 hours a week and feel completely committed. His wife refuses to see or communicate with K, and that wife has been diagnosed with stage three terminal cancer. Should K bow out of this relationship she’s put so much into?
- Resist the urge to value the original couple more highly than subsequent relationships. When a partner or metamour faces hard times, support rather than absence is generally a compassionate response.
- Rather than taking advice from others, ask the people involved what they want. Ask him and her what they want. No one else’s opinion matters.
- Say what you want. You are in a valid relationship and have a voice.
- Remember that you do also always have the power to leave if the situation becomes untenable or unhealthy for you.
10:45 Happy Poly Moment
K shares a fabulous happy poly moment of spending casual, pizza-and-pajamas time with a metamour and that metamour’s wife.
13:00 Wrap up
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