lolcat-liesWe all lie a little to be in the closet. But how much is too much?

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1:00 Announcements

12:30 Poly in the News

Polyamory: taboo for religious Americans but not for the rest

16:00 Kicking Poly Drama Testimonial

Kicking Poly Drama on Its Ass online course student Joseph shares his experience with taking Minx’s first online course—what it was like, and was it worth the time, effort and money to take an online poly course.

20:10 Topic: When to stop lying

Frustrated in Kentucky writes in to ask about a tricky situation. In an open marriage and playing with K, who is squicked at dating a married woman and wants to be in the closet about it. However, their mutual close friends have noticed their interactions and are asking about Frustrated dating K, so she is forced to lie directly to them in order to keep K in the closet. To make matters worse, K is about to move in with said mutual friends! What to do?

  • LustyGuy suggests not actually lying while still respecting K’s closet. Have you tried “I can’t answer that” or “I can neither confirm nor deny”?
  • While you do need to respect K’s closet, it’s also worth asking yourself what you need in order to be happy. Is being in the closet hot and sexy, or is it making your relationship worse and less healthy?

27:25 Thank you!

Thanks BJ for joining the PW Playmates!

28:40 Wrap Up

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  1. So about herpes: from what I understand, the best time to identify if genital herpes is I or II is when a person has an outbreak. So doctors frequently do swab the site to ID it, as it’s a more reliable test than blood tests. IDing the strain has implications for prevention.

    HSV1 is the more tenacious strain; it is more easily transmitted because it likes both mouths and genitals, versus it is much harder to spread HSV2 from genitals to mouth. HSV can be spread when people don’t even have an outbreak, which is called shedding. HSV1 sheds more than HSV2, that is, it’s easier to catch even when someone is asymptomatic. So yeah, lusty guy, you’re infectious even when you don’t have cold sores.

  2. I recently was reading an article at talking of modern stigma invented by marketing. Apparently the shame of having herpes was one of these.

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