The new Polyamory Weekly #98: Relationships AREN’T work! is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to

1:40 Announcements
Thanks to Doug and Erik for your generous donations to Poly Weekly; thanks to TR for diligently working on PW’s new blog page, launching soon; thanks to Alissa for our new album art! so pretty!

3:30 Sponsor: BiSect!
Saturday, March 24th in Los Angeles, CA–check out for this women-only bi event!

5:00 Announcement: Betty Dodson is coming to Chicgo
Email to register for the $15 workshop given by the Queen of Masturbation and long-time sex educator and artist; her work is here; Early2Bed

7:10 Commentary: Robyn Trask on Studio 60
Robyn Trask, founder and dedicated volunteer for Loving More, comments on the recent mention of polyamory and Loving More on Studio 60–despite the positive mention, polyamorists were frequently referred to as “the sex people;” also, Loving More is a real organization (and a trademarked one) presented next to a fictional abstinence organization, and the unpermissioned mention was a trademark violation

13:00 Interview: Tacit: Relationships AREN’T work
tacit shares his opinions on polyamory; he states that the relationship itself isn’t work, but the work is on YOU, yourself and your emotions, not on “the relationship;” it’s about developing tools/skills for communication; your life is happier when you systematically confront your fears; his best technique is to confront the insecurity/fear head-on
22:30 differentiating between a hard limit and a fear to be overcome; controlling your own behavior versus trying to control someone else; identifying passive-aggressive behavior; being honest with yourself about your own intentions and looking at your own motivations
31:22 relationships are fluid things, but fear of change can motivate insecurities; keep in mind that relationships do change and are dynamic
33:40 tacit shares his story of his relationship of 18 years with his wife, who did not self-identify as poly but eventually exhibited poly behavior; she was threatened by the idea of emotional intimacy and because she didn’t self-identify as poly, the relationship was prescriptive and eventually ended, damaging all relationships in the process; he concludes that while you can create rules, security comes from within and can’t be created for someone else (back to working on yourself)

37:00 Wrap-Up
I’m a little behind with email; recorded Sunday and catching up; thanks again for offers of help and support! Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.


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