PW 490: Boundaries vs rules

Rules vs boundaries by Cunning MinxWhat is the difference between a rule and a boundary?

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1:30 Poly in the News

8:50 Topic: Boundaries vs rules

  • Candyfloss wrote in to ask what exactly was the difference between boundaries and rules—and is it OK to make a “no sex in my bed” rule?
    • Rules are behavioral restrictions placed on others. Boundaries are statements of the limits of your personal integrity. “You can’t have sex in my bed” is a rule. “I insist on informed consent” is a personal boundary that could be applied to a number of situations, including your bed.
  • Also, do hierarchical poly configurations work?

24:50 Feedback

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25:50 Happy Poly Moment

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27:30 Wrap up

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PW 317: Rules redux

Franklin Veaux and Minx discuss listener feedback, advice and anecdotes around creating rules and boundaries to apply to polyamorous relatiomships

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Introduction

Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen

1:00 News and host chat

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2:40 Topic: Rules Redux

Franklin Veaux and Minx respond to listener feedback about the rules episode.

  • Sean wrote in with the rules his partner imposed on him after an incident
  • J wrote in to clarify the difference between rules that promote discussion versus rules that are designed to bind behavior
  • Isaac asked about D/s rules
  • Jonathan asked for rules when he began dating and got these: “We will trust you if you are trustworthy. We will believe you if you are honest. We will listen if you speak openly. We will communicate if you listen. You’ll have to write any other rules you need yourself because when all is said and done you are the only one that is going to limit your actions. Oh by the way we’ll have a surprise ready here; bring your date home if you want.”
  • Vir shared a quote on boundaries

36:00 Wrapup

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