It’s that time again! This month, we’re eagerly reading (what else) Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up. I’ve already started it, and I can’t wait to discuss it with y’all! Of course, if you just want to talk polyamory or meet poly folks, reading the book isn’t required–just come out and say hello!
When: WEDNESDAY, JULY 2ND
Where: The Center on Halsted, 3656 N. Halsted, Chicago, 2nd floor by the white couches
Why: because poly can be confusing and sharing opinions is fun (plus, the Mad Baker brings GREAT snacks!)
Who: anyone interested in meeting poly folks
If you’re interested in coming, please RSVP to Minx (cunningminx at gmail dot com) with the subject line “Book Club” so I’ll know to look for you. We’ve had some people not able to find us in the past, so we’re trying to make sure that doesn’t happen again!
Also, if you’re interested in discussing the book but aren’t local to Chicago, mark your calendar for Saturday, July 12th, 3:30 p.m. Central. for a Skype online book discussion.
Two big events!
First, the Chicago Many Loves seminar is this Saturday, June 14th!
A continuing series designed to provide a supportive and safe environment for people to explore issues of non-monogamous practice and identity. Topics for this month are two very different but often related topics, “Poly Community” and “Poly Cheating.” Open to adults age 18 and older who either practice or are curious about non-monogamy, open relationships, and polyamory.
Held Saturday, June 14th, from 10AM to 1PM at Center on Halsted (3656 North Halsted, Chicago, IL 60613). Please contact David Rodemaker at 773.472.6643 x472 or firstname.lastname@example.org for more details. Come to the second floor reception area and check in there. $15 fee. Space is limited; RSVP appreciated but not required.
Second, Negotiating Non-Monogamy is back!
Location: Milwaukee A Woman’s Touch
Date/Time: Saturday, July 12th, 1:00 – 2:30 PM
Cost: $35 per person; everyone over 18 welcome.
Open marriage, swinging, polyamory, oh, my! These days, more and more couples are choosing non-monogamy for their own intimate relationships. But the path from monogamy to an open marriage, a swinger lifestyle or polyamory can be a tricky one if you’re not aware of the pitfalls you might hit along the way and the discussions that you and your partner need to have in order to avoid them. Plus, those Hot Bi Babes are just a myth, anyway–they don’t actually exist. Like unicorns.
So forget the unicorns and join Minx for a fun and frank discussion of how to negotiate new boundaries–and discover the joy and intimacy non-monogamy can bring to your existing relationship.
Minx is host of the popular Polyamory Weekly podcast, now with over 150 weekly episodes, and has spoken on topics relating to multiple loves at the Heartland Polyamory Conference, GD2 and other events. Her work has been featured on Podfinder, ErosZine and Penthouse Forum, and she currently hosts a poly book club in Chicago. Plus, Janet Hardy once complimented her ass. To register, visit A Woman’s Touch.
This month will be more of a munch, since most of us haven’t had time to order and read the book yet. But go ahead and order it, come this month, munch with us, and we’ll discuss the book next month!
The book: John Gottman’s The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work
When: WEDNESDAY, JUNE 4, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Where: The Center on Halsted, 2nd floor white couches
Also, The Mad Baker of Green Bay is taking requests for snacks–what yummies would you like for him to bake for us this time?
Also, I’d like to ask y’all a question. A documentary filmmaker from CurrentTV is doing a short documentary on how Poly Weekly is made. I’m toying with the idea of inviting him to this munch/book club meeting, mostly because I’d like the publicity for the Center on Halsted. However, I’d have to instruct him to keep the camera on me ONLY and not on the group at all. IF there were a camera there documenting the making of PW, would it deter you from coming? Would it hinder your participation?
Please be honest–I’d rather have a good munch than good footage. Thank you!
RSVP with subject line “Book Club” to email@example.com or reply here so I know to look for you. Thanks!
Time to visit Amazon and check out the next Poly Weekly book club selection!
This month, we decided to read something more personal: Eros, the memoir of bisexual poly activist and recent guest to Poly Weekly, Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio. (Click the link to purchase from Amazon)
When: Wednesday, May 7th, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Where: The Center on Halsted, Chicago, IL, on the second floor white couches
What: Eros, a Journey of Multiple Loves book discussion–please come even if you haven’t read the book!
The Poly Weekly Book Club meets this WEDNESDAY, APRIL 2ND at the Center on Halsted!
Book: Anapol’s Love Without Limits
Location: Center on Halsted, 2nd floor, white couches
Time: 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Please come join us, even if you haven’t read the book! The discussion is always lively and interesting, and all polys and poly-curious are welcome!
This month’s Poly Weekly Book Club was GREAT! We had about seven people in attendance, and we finished up discussing Ravenscroft’s Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and the Hopeful. We discussed the books pros, cons and talking points:
* Book didn’t have much structure; rambling and hard to read
* Font was tiny and hard to read
* Author’s tone didn’t capture interest
* Author could be condescending
* Book was a more pratical guide to poly and answered common questions
* Sections on how to argue, welcoming change, finding a poly support network and more were dead-on with their advice
* Gives lots of examples and anecdotes
* Doesn’t sugar-coat anything
Overall, while the book wasn’t everyone’s cup of tea, most of us found something useful, and many of us went crazy with underlining many sections of the book.
So, NEXT BOOK!
Anapol’s Polyamory: the New Love Without Limits.
We’ll meet on Wednesday, April 2nd, 6:00-9:00 p.m. at the Center on Halsted, second floor, white couches, to discuss it. And if S still doesn’t have a job, he’ll bring yummy snacks again! (Those peanut butter cookies were to die for!)
Thanks so much to everyone who came out to the Poly Weekly Book Club last night! We ended up with about a dozen folks, all heatedly discussing Ravenscroft’s book. Some had read the book in its entirety; some still had it on order; some (like me) had read about half. One guy even drove in from Green Bay just for the event! (But we all think he’s crazy)
We talked about the poly community (whether there was one), the significance of labels like primary/secondary and why we treat people the way we do; converting to poly being as all-encompassing as converting to a new religion; why the print in the book is so damn tiny; and why there are no good resources for secondaries out there.
After three hours, the group felt there was still more to discuss, so we’re going to finish the book and continue discussing it next month. So, for next month:
Wednesday, February 27th, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Poly Weekly Book Club
Anthony Ravenscroft’s Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and the Hopeful, Redux
The Center on Halsted, 3656 N. Halsted
2nd floor, on the white sofas
We dont’ have a meeting room, so look for us on the second floor on the white sofas.
Many Loves January Chicago Seminar
A continuing series designed to provide a supportive and safe environment for people to explore issues of non-monogamous practice and identity. Topics for this month are “Healthy Boundaries” and “Embracing Intimacy.” Open to adults age 18 and older who either practice or are curious about non-monogamy, open relationships, and polyamory.
Held Saturday, January 19th, from 10AM to 1PM at Center on Halsted (3656 North Halsted, Chicago, IL 60613).
$15 fee. Space is limited; RSVP appreciated but not required.