How do you handle coming out when your pregnancy forces the poly issue?
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13:20 Topic: Pregnant, poly and being judged
A pregnant listener with two boyfriends asks how to avoid being judged when coming out about the nature of her relationship. Advice:
- When people judge, it’s a commentary on their own experiences, not yours. Surprisingly, it’s rarely about you; it’s about them! Listen and express sympathy and compassion for any unpleasant incidents they reveal to you.
- Use humor whenever possible.
- Be careful legally and explore the ramifications.
- Kei gave feedback on episode 357 regarding dealing with differing levels of sexual drive in relationships.
- Olaf wrote in to comment that any new web series on polyamory would help with exposure.
- It’s the first of May! Outdoor fucking starts today!
29:00 Thank you
Thanks to Keith and Kristin for their generous donations this week!
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How does one wrangle being polyamorous and parenting at the same time? Sierra Black tells us!
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1:00 News and host chat
12:00 Topic: Poly families with Sierra Black
Sierra Black’s Salon article on her open marriage and the getting back together
a.blogspot.com/2012/04/on-abcs-2020-polyfamily-network-shows.html”>20/20 episode on polyamory and parenting.
Parenting questions she is asked:
- How do you find the time to be poly with a 4-year-old, a 7-year-old and an 18-year-old? Answer: this isn’t a one-way street; everyone pitches in so others can have date time.
- What do you tell the kids? Answer: Be open about who everyone is with age-appropriate information.
- What do you do when relationships end? Answer: deal with them just as you would with step-parents and keep them in the kids’ lives whenever possible.
- What advice do you have about coming out to older kids? Answer: we’re lucky because everyone in the community is open and poly and the kids have a support network.
- How are you out to the other adults in your kids’ life? School administrators, grandparents, doctors? Answer: anything you radiate normal, healthy vibes about, people will take in stride. Be comfortable, confident and open, and it’s easy to be out.
Conclusion: kids are very What’s In It for Me? They want to know that they are loved and that mommy, daddy and everyone else loves and cares about them, too.
Sierra blogs at ChildWild.com and writes for Babble.
Thanks to Mike for the $69 donation!
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