By Cunning Minx, on February 16th, 2013%
 Considering polyamory? Kathy Labriola shares three basic poly relationship models
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
12:20 Interview: Kathy Labriola on poly relationship models
Kathy Labriola, counselor, nurse and author of Love in Abundance: a Counselor’s Advice on Open Relationships, shares her insights on different relationship models for polyamory.
40:20 Happy Poly Moment
M shares an OK Cupid happy poly moment
41:30 Feedback
Jane shares her insights on herpes: the poison ivy of the relationship world. Just a minor inconvenience, not the scarring STI it’s made out to be.
45:20 Thank you
Thanks to Kathleen for her donation and welcome I to the Poly Weekly Playmates!
46:00 Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email?  Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on January 24th, 2013%
 What do you do when a partner’s jealousy destroys a relationship you have with someone else?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
9:10 Topic: How to deal with a partner’s jealousy
L asks for advice on breaking up with someone who isn’t your primary, but Minx sees that her partner’s jealousy is the real issue and gives advice based on Franklin Veaux‘s How to Be a Secure Person:
- Letting jealousy destroy a relationship is a bad precedent. Deal with this jealousy now so you can go forth and date from a place of generosity, kindness and confidence.
- Look beneath the surface to determine what is driving your jealousy and insecurities
- Fill in these blanks: “If my lover [kisses another person in front of me], then the bad thing that will happen is ______.” “If this keeps happening, then it means ________.” “If my lover really loves this other person, then ______.”
- Practice, practice, practice! Practice being secure and coping with jealousy. It takes 21 days to create a habit, so don’t expect to dispel jealousy the first time out.
- And please, don’t date until you and your partner are both secure. It’s not fair to your new lover, who is making an emotional, psychological and maybe even sexual investment in you to be dumped due to someone else’s jealousy.
22:05 Happy Poly Moment
Brandon shares a moment of his wife and girlfriend getting along great!
23:15 Feedback: Episode 345 Poly for the Holidays
Vir writes in to remark on Sierra Black’s Huffington Post piece on making a decision about honoring her mother’s holiday wishes.
Wrap up
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By Cunning Minx, on January 20th, 2013%
 How does BDSM prepare one for polyamory? Lily Lloyd explains.
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- Heading out to hit the Portland strip clubs for my birthday; will report back next week!
2:00 Topic: How being kinky prepared me to be poly
Lily Lloyd, guest poster on kink on the SoloPoly blog,and author of the Black Leather Belt blog and the Black Leather Belt book, shares insights on best practices for kink that serve poly well:
- Frank and ongoing discussions about sex (before it’s a problem)
- The practice of aftercare: dealing with unexpected, strong emotional reactions while staying calm and staying until the partner is okay
- “Equal” isn’t necessarily fair. In kink, it’s assumed that everyone will have different tastes, kinks and limits, and reciprocity isn’t assumed or necessary.
27:00 Feedback: Episode 344 Consent Is Sexy
- Week BiWeek felt the casual tone LustyGuy and I took for the Consent Is Sexy episode was inappropriate to the seriousness of the topic.
- Edward, a self-named ” 55-yo, cigar smoking, martini-drinking, Republican-voting, $5,000 suit wearing Wall Streeter and military consultant,” writes in to say that sleep sex is never appropriate without consent and also that hearing a verbal affirmation that a woman wants him is indeed sexy
- Vir writes in to say that Alyssa’s original article was indeed a rape apology: “I think that what she did in her article was make excuses for rape. She did call him a rapist and she did convince him that he was a rapist. But because he was a friend, she didn’t want it to be all his fault and so she tried to blame the wider community for not training men better not to rape. That right there is aiding and abetting ‘rape culture’ if not, strictly, engaging in ‘rape apology.’”
- Amos is a new listener who finds that the advice on the podcast applies to those outside poly as well.
40:00 Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on January 11th, 2013%
 Can Aspies be polyamorous? Can polyamory aid a person with Asperger’s?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- LustyGuy, L and I did our goal-setting for 2013. Lots of fun with Your Best Year Yet!
- The North Texas Poly Group shares the following new vocab terms:
- CONFRUBBLED: Confused but happy about it. “I don’t know whose hands those are, but they are doing a great job!”
- FROXY: The pleasure one gets from working up a metamour in anticipation of your sweetheart doing very bad things to them. Like compersion, but sexy and just a tiny bit mean. The enjoyment one gets from participating in alloerotic narratophilia.
- OUTLAWS: The parents of your socially-illicit life partner. “We went to go have dinner with the outlaws Sunday evening. They love playing with our kids so much, they’ve nearly adopted the boys as grandbabies already!”
- 5:10 Miss Poly Manners on (defining one’s own behavior) versus rules (restricting someone else’s behavior) versus agreement (two+ people agree to after discussing boundaries and expectations)
11:05 Topic: Poly and Asperger’s
A listener asks: can you be poly with Asperger’s? Does it help?
21:00 Happy Poly Moments
- Kit shares a snuggly happy poly moment
- Jamie shares a great story of a frubbly weekend by which a partner got to spend more time with her daughter over the holidays due to their poly relationship
- Bruce shared the simple pleasure of a wine-tasting with his girlfriend and metamour
24:00 Feedback
- A listener calls in to ask about dealing with jealousy when in the “s” part of a D/s relationship. Poly and kink overlap, but not all kinksters make the effort to do poly well. Want your kinky poly relationship to succeed? Read Raven Kaldera’s Power Circuits and apply his wisdom!
- What’s NRE in Norwegian? Forelsket!
29:25 Thank you
Thanks to Candice for her donation this month!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on November 27th, 2012%
 How do you get over the loss of an intense relationship, like a D/s one?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- Minx and LustyGuy got back from vacation… sick as dogs.
- PW friend J.R. Blackwell, an amazing photographer, is looking to photograph a poly wedding! See Blackwell’s work here and get HALF OFF to the first poly group that engages her!
4:35 Topic: Getting over your Dom
How do you get over your Dom after an intense relationship and a rough breakup? Some advice:
- This just sucks, kinky or not. Allow yourself to grieve the loss.
- You’ll get through this. And you’ll be better for it.
- Seek out a poly/kinky support network for this and other issues. Being isolated makes a breakup even harder.
- Find a poly/kinky-friendly therapist in your area to have someone professional to talk to. I did this, and it helped make the year after a difficult breakup much better.
16:30 Feedback
Lee asks for advice on losing a poly relationship and going from a poly family of three to just a couple of two.
19:00 Happy Poly Moment
Herbalwise shares a happy poly moment.
22:00 Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on November 5th, 2012%
 If you’re a busy professional woman, how do you make time to date and form more than one relationship?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
Congrats to friend of Poly Weekly and queer, kinky poly grrl Pretty Ribbons on getting a book publishing deal from her blog!
2:45 Topic: Poly professional woman (rebroadcast)
A listener writes in to ask how a full-time woman who puts her career first and still handles the home responsibilities can find dating anything other than exhausting. Also, what to do when your partner has more free time and energy to date, causing dating envy.
- First, sympathy—I work for a startup and have also made work my priority, so it is very hard to find energy to date after putting all your passion into your work.
- Second, evaluate your priorities. Do a goal-setting session using Your Best Year Yet to establish your priorities for the next 12 months. If dating isn’t that valuable to you and doesn’t make the list, treat it like any other type of jealousy and act accordingly. If it is, try making 1-hour lunch date “chemistry tests” or make weekly OKCupid online vetting nights (with wine and a girlfriend!) to get started.
- Third, take immediate action. It sounds like the chore split was created when you had more free time, so redistribute household chores to give you more time and energy for self-care and other essential/fun priorities.
- Finally, it might be helpful to listen to the episodes on introverts and on jealousy.
- And bonus: “sleep is the new sex” It’s the ultimate luxury and vice; treat it as a precious resource!
18:30 Feedback
Gabriel writes in to ask if there are any children’s books to introduce poly to kids—anyone know of one or want to take on the task?
Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on October 30th, 2012%
 How to fight fair in a relationship
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
There have been quite the happenings in Sweden, writes listener D!
4:30 Topic: How to argue
Great advice on how to argue and fight fair in a relationship:
- Treat the other person with respect
- Listen
- Summarize back what you heard
- Assure your partner that his/her feelings are valid
- Use “I” statements
- Don’t get revenge
- Diffuse the anger
- Talk about your feelings rather than acting on them
19:30 Happy Poly Moment
Jess writes in to share some sweet gestures from her metamour on first meeting!
22:00 Feedback
Mike G calls in to discredit the “upsuck” theory of female orgasm mentioned in episodes 333 and 336
Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on October 24th, 2012%
 Listeners, LustyGuy and Minx give advice on dating someone who is in a long-term relationship that is imploding
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
4:00 Topic: Dating in a doomed relationship
A listener writes in to ask how to deal with dating someone whose marriage is falling apart. Should she distance herself? How does she deal with the soon-to-be-ex wife? PW listeners give advice, including:
- Stop dating him and be supportive friend to both
- If the relationship is already long-term, don’t leave, but offer to be a sounding board (we disagree that you should offer to be a sounding board but agree that not taking sides or speaking ill of anyone is key)
- Be prepared to fail
- Set limits by saying hurtful behavior and words won’t be tolerated
- Be aware that how he acts during this breakup is very telling in how he will eventually treat YOU
29:20 Happy Poly Moment
David writes in to share his experience going from cheating to DADT to honesty and is rewarded with some frubble.
37:00 Thanks
Thanks to David for the donation!
Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on October 20th, 2012%
 Life on the Swingset podcast What happens when the crew of the Swingset Life joins Poly Weekly? THIS!
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1:00 News and host chat
- There is a new FetLife group on living as a “single secondary” (Signup and login required) with interesting discussions such as “what would your ideal poly situation look like?
- Relax; it’s a lap dance, not a root canal. Why you should enjoy your lap dance and stop trying to save your dancer – From Sex and the 405
8:00 Swingset orgy blowout!
It’s a non-monogamy orgy as the Swingset crew joins Polyamory Weekly! Ginger, Dylan, Cooper and Shira (also cohost of Pedestrian Polyamory podcast) talk progressive swinging, modern non-monogamy and a bit about sucking cock. Be polypodcasterous!
- Introductions
- And they’re off! (Is Google Calendar foreplay?)
- 16:00 What is progressive swinging? And blurring the line between polyamory and swinging
- Male bisexuality and swinging today and why guys shouldn’t be afraid to be bi; how women love gay porn
- 41:50 is it getting warm at this orgy or is it just me?
- 42:15 myth: swingers are rich yuppies while polys are broke hippies. Discuss!
55:20 Thanks
Thanks to Ryan and Kevin for their donations!
Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on October 13th, 2012%
 Marcia Baczynski of Successful Nonmonogamy What four things do you need to evaluate before opening your relationship?
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1:00 News and host chat
8:00 Sex for your earbuds
Sex Nerd Sandra podcast
11:00 Successful Nonmonogamy
Marciz Baczynski is hosting a series of ongoing classes and coaching for those entering their first non-monogamous relationship. Because one book and a friend or two isn’t enough; we need ongoing support to keep drama to a minimum! Visit her site to get her free ebook and read her blog.
38:00 Happy Poly Moment
A great story of finding a good spiritual home that welcomes leather lesbian nonmonogamists.
42:00 Thanks
Thanks to Toma and Hayley for their donations!
Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
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