By Cunning Minx, on April 21st, 2013%
The study, finally! How much does penis size matter?
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1:00 Topic: Does penis size matter?
An Australian researcher finally did a study matching the relevance of penis size as a factor in combination with other physical factors for physical attractiveness. Does it matter?
Other headlines citing the study:
11:40 Happy Poly Moment
E shares a great story of transition of a partner moving from “hell no” to “this is cool”
13:10 Feedback
- Lynn shares feedback on the HSV episode that made it much easier to avoid the shame spiral.
- ArcticWolf shares thoughts on the stats on the poly marriage failure rate
Thank you
Thanks to Joseph, Andrew, Meg and Emma for their donations this week!
Wrap up
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By Cunning Minx, on November 5th, 2012%
 If you’re a busy professional woman, how do you make time to date and form more than one relationship?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
Congrats to friend of Poly Weekly and queer, kinky poly grrl Pretty Ribbons on getting a book publishing deal from her blog!
2:45 Topic: Poly professional woman (rebroadcast)
A listener writes in to ask how a full-time woman who puts her career first and still handles the home responsibilities can find dating anything other than exhausting. Also, what to do when your partner has more free time and energy to date, causing dating envy.
- First, sympathy—I work for a startup and have also made work my priority, so it is very hard to find energy to date after putting all your passion into your work.
- Second, evaluate your priorities. Do a goal-setting session using Your Best Year Yet to establish your priorities for the next 12 months. If dating isn’t that valuable to you and doesn’t make the list, treat it like any other type of jealousy and act accordingly. If it is, try making 1-hour lunch date “chemistry tests” or make weekly OKCupid online vetting nights (with wine and a girlfriend!) to get started.
- Third, take immediate action. It sounds like the chore split was created when you had more free time, so redistribute household chores to give you more time and energy for self-care and other essential/fun priorities.
- Finally, it might be helpful to listen to the episodes on introverts and on jealousy.
- And bonus: “sleep is the new sex” It’s the ultimate luxury and vice; treat it as a precious resource!
18:30 Feedback
Gabriel writes in to ask if there are any children’s books to introduce poly to kids—anyone know of one or want to take on the task?
Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on October 24th, 2012%
 Listeners, LustyGuy and Minx give advice on dating someone who is in a long-term relationship that is imploding
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
4:00 Topic: Dating in a doomed relationship
A listener writes in to ask how to deal with dating someone whose marriage is falling apart. Should she distance herself? How does she deal with the soon-to-be-ex wife? PW listeners give advice, including:
- Stop dating him and be supportive friend to both
- If the relationship is already long-term, don’t leave, but offer to be a sounding board (we disagree that you should offer to be a sounding board but agree that not taking sides or speaking ill of anyone is key)
- Be prepared to fail
- Set limits by saying hurtful behavior and words won’t be tolerated
- Be aware that how he acts during this breakup is very telling in how he will eventually treat YOU
29:20 Happy Poly Moment
David writes in to share his experience going from cheating to DADT to honesty and is rewarded with some frubble.
37:00 Thanks
Thanks to David for the donation!
Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on September 9th, 2012%
 What happen in the polysphere this week? Civil unions in Brazil, solo polys and Republicans on the female anatomy.
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1:00 News and host chat
- I’ll be giving Content Creation for the Online Activist at CatalystCon September 14-16 in Long Beach
3:40 This week in poly
25:00 Happy Poly Moment
- Ryan in Denver shares a cuddly HPM
- Rob shares a nekked camping HPM in Missouri
29:00 Feedback
- Joan MADE MY DAY with her heartfelt thanks for episode 330 on welcoming a third into your relationship
32:00 Thanks
Thanks to Eric, Joan and John for the donations this week!
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on May 17th, 2012%
 Listener M writes in with a dilemma: what do you do when you love your girlfriend but hate your metamour?
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Introduction
Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen
1:00 News and host chat
- Welcome to our cohost, LustyGuy. Can you tell which Scotch he is sipping?
1:50 Topic: I hate my metamour!
M writes in to say that he finds his girlfriend’s new partner so repulsive that he hates the guy, which is not helped by the fact that the girlfriend revealed that the partner is trapped in a sexless marriage and believes that M and girlfriend are moving too quickly.
- A drama queen? Much of the negative information on the partner (“Scary Clown”) came to M secondhand from the girlfriend. Always question why your girlfriend chooses to reveal unflattering information about a metamour secondhand. Is there a need for drama on her part? Relationship management skills are needed here.
- Open lines of communication there is no line of communication open between Scary Clown and M. Of course he feels uncomfortable.
- Responsibilities of the point The person at the point of the vee (here, the girlfriend) has additional responsibilities in terms of nurturing healthy relationships and conveying only the most relevant and supportive information to partners. However, this person should NEVER agree to act as mediator between the other two parties.
- Setting boundaries the people at the edges of the vee need to set boundaries and be careful to express what they need rather than a simple “I don’t like so-and-so.” For that matter, the person at the point of the vee also needs to set boundaries such as “No saying that M and I aren’t good as a couple. That’s not supportive, and I won’t tolerate it.”
19:45 Feedback
Wayne writes in about an NPR piece on breasts. Audio and transcripts are here.
24:00 Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on March 30th, 2012%
It is always my divine pleasure to present on just about any topic at MomentumCon, one of my favorite sex-positive events. It’s always chock-full of luminaries and sexy thought leaders with forward-looking ideas and insights. Great stuff!
My talk this year was a little more down and dirty. Based on the research you guys helped me conduct, I created a deck of guidelines based on the biggest complaints users made regarding sex-positive community sites such as FetLife. Without further ado, here it is: How Not to Be a Douche on FetLife.
By Cunning Minx, on January 3rd, 2012%
 How to approach someone for a threesome or one-on-one date
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Introduction
Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com
1:00 Announcements
7:45 Topic: The metamour approach
- Elizabeth asks how to approach the invite for a threesome with a good friend without ruining the friendship. Minx’s advice: treat it the same way you would approaching a mono friend you have romantic feelings for but don’t want to ruin the friendship. Flirt, state your desires, graciously accept a “no.”
- Proff asks if he’s weird for wanting to meet his partner’s OK Cupid date on their first meeting. Minx’s take: How would you feel if you’d been flirting with a girl and, when you went to pick her up, her whole family came out to size you up? A bit off-putting for the poor guy! It’s best to trust your partner to date someone as ethically as she dated you. Keep in touch and meet him after a few dates.
17:05 Feedback – Episode 297, Poly for the holidays
- P wrote in to tell how her kid surmised the relationship, asked about it, and they pleasantly confirmed
- Lily from Boston requests more solid advice on dealing with kids for the holidays – who has good advice for her? (None of our cohosts have kids!)
- Chauncey says thanks!
21:25 Thanks
Thanks to Scott, Kelly, Carlita, Scott and new Poly Weekly Playmate Paul!
Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on December 12th, 2011%
 How does a poly professional woman focused on her career make time and energy to date at all?
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Introduction
Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com
1:00 Host chat
- We’re closing in on episode 300. And it’s all YOURS! Call in your poem, limerick, story, joke, Happy Poly Moment, book review, rant; whatever! Call in to 206-202-POLY or attach an mp3 to email to polyweekly@gmail.com. Without YOU, there will be no show!
- The right-wing extremists are at it again. If we allow gay marriage, people will marry their cars.
- And Rick Perry is at it again, making a tremendously unpopular video against gays serving openly against the military somehow correlating to a war on Christmas. No, it doesn’t make sense to anyone else, either. And they kind of forgot to turn off the like/dislike feature, so currently 230K Dislikes compared to under 800 Likes. Score one for social media showing how people REALLY feel about idiot politicians!
- Pepper is organizing a new OpenSF conference June 8-10 in San Francisco, just $40!
9:20 Topic: How does a busy poly professional woman find time to date?
A listener writes in to ask how a full-time woman who puts her career first and still handles the home responsibilities can find dating anything other than exhausting. Also, what to do when your partner has more free time and energy to date, causing dating envy.
- First, sympathy—I work for a startup and have also made work my priority, so it is very hard to find energy to date after putting all your passion into your work.
- Second, evaluate your priorities. Do a goal-setting session using Your Best Year Yet to establish your priorities for the next 12 months. If dating isn’t that valuable to you and doesn’t make the list, treat it like any other type of jealousy and act accordingly. If it is, try making 1-hour lunch date “chemistry tests” or make weekly OKCupid online vetting nights (with wine and a girlfriend!) to get started.
- Third, take immediate action. It sounds like the chore split was created when you had more free time, so redistribute household chores to give you more time and energy for self-care and other essential/fun priorities.
- Finally, it might be helpful to listen to the episodes on introverts and on jealousy.
- And bonus: “sleep is the new sex” It’s the ultimate luxury and vice; treat it as a precious resource!
25:00 Thanks
Thanks to Paul for his donation! And welcome Olaf to the Poly Weekly Playmates!
26:00 Wrapup
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on October 25th, 2011%
 How not to be a giant douche on FetLife
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Introduction
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1:00 How not to be a douche on FetLife
Best practices for getting FetLife booty and not being pegged as a douchebag:
- Tell us who you are.
- a. Complete your profile before sending messages to anyone else.
- b. Have a profile picture that looks like you (not your cock, girlfriend, slave or favorite cartoon character, YOU.)
- c. Include photos that are primarily of you or your work. This does not include photos of the last 20 girls that sucked your cock. It does include toys you made, pretty rope work and artistic shots of scenes that convey a strong emotion and your own personality.
- d. List your fetishes.
- Pay attention. Read a person’s profile before you message him/her. If the person is smart enough to specify what he/she does and doesn’t like in terms of approach, offers and play, read and respect that. Modify your opening message accordingly.
- Be civil. Being confrontational and aggressive or writing in all caps doesn’t make you a hot top, and no one is falling for it. No experienced bottom will associate aggression from a stranger as hot, safe, sane or sexy.
- Participate. FetLife is a community. Join groups that you find interesting and participate in discussions (see #3). Show that you’re not just kinky online or in private but an active member of the local scene with other people that know and trust you.
16:15 Movie review: Head in the Clouds
Joreth reviews Head in the Clouds as a poly-friendly movie.
20:30 Feedback
- Grace asked how to handle mundane things like chores and finances.
- Blake wrote on episode 288 on geeks and kink in to make a correlation between a creative, open mind and sexual late-bloomers, “I think being kinky and geeky totally makes you more intelligent than the average person.”
- Angel responded to Matt’s rant against marriage in episode 288 to clarify a personal take on marriage: “To us a wedding is a chance to celebrate your relationship publicly with other people.”
28:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on October 12th, 2011%
 Where does a football-watching, beer-drinking, lawn-mowing guy meet the poly girl next door?
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1:00 Announcements
- Geek Girl Con was a blast! Review of my favorite panels as well as the Everything you wanted to know about kink but was afraid to ask panel with Allena Gabosch of the Center for Sex Positive Culture Saturday evening
- The Geeky Kink Event is November 4-6 in New Jersey, including D&D gaming and TARDIS bondage boxes in the play space!
- The first Charlotte Poly Meet and Greet is October 16th at 2:00 PM and every other Sunday thereafter at Amelie’s Bakery, 2424 N Davidson St. It’s family-friendly and public, so come out to meet other polys! Email montague.blue@gmail.com for more information.
13:10 Where are the all-American poly girls next door?
LustyGuy makes his debut appearance on the show to answer the question, where does a football-watching, lawn-mowing, beer-drinking, girl-next-door loving American guy go to meet the poly girl next door?
Advice includes doing what you love and meeting others who love the same things: hang out with the local football crowd, join lawn-mowing groups/races and be open to coming out to your neighbors. Also, remember that just because one is poly, the rules of dating don’t change. Go out with your best self and an open mind rather than preconceived ideas about who you will click with.
34:40 Feedback
Nadine likes Anita Wagner’s advice for poly newbies.
35:50 Thanks to our supporters!
Thanks to N for the donation!
47:20 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
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