PW 292: How not to be a douche on FetLife

How not to be a giant douche on FetLife

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Introduction

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1:00 How not to be a douche on FetLife

Best practices for getting FetLife booty and not being pegged as a douchebag:

  1. Tell us who you are.
    • a. Complete your profile before sending messages to anyone else.
    • b. Have a profile picture that looks like you (not your cock, girlfriend, slave or favorite cartoon character, YOU.)
    • c. Include photos that are primarily of you or your work. This does not include photos of the last 20 girls that sucked your cock. It does include toys you made, pretty rope work and artistic shots of scenes that convey a strong emotion and your own personality.
    • d. List your fetishes.
  2. Pay attention. Read a person’s profile before you message him/her. If the person is smart enough to specify what he/she does and doesn’t like in terms of approach, offers and play, read and respect that. Modify your opening message accordingly.
  3. Be civil. Being confrontational and aggressive or writing in all caps doesn’t make you a hot top, and no one is falling for it. No experienced bottom will associate aggression from a stranger as hot, safe, sane or sexy.
  4. Participate. FetLife is a community. Join groups that you find interesting and participate in discussions (see #3). Show that you’re not just kinky online or in private but an active member of the local scene with other people that know and trust you.

16:15 Movie review: Head in the Clouds

Joreth reviews Head in the Clouds as a poly-friendly movie.

20:30 Feedback

  • Grace asked how to handle mundane things like chores and finances.
  • Blake wrote on episode 288 on geeks and kink in to make a correlation between a creative, open mind and sexual late-bloomers, “I think being kinky and geeky totally makes you more intelligent than the average person.”
  • Angel responded to Matt’s rant against marriage in episode 288 to clarify a personal take on marriage: “To us a wedding is a chance to celebrate your relationship publicly with other people.”

28:00 Wrap-up

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PW 290: Football-loving poly

Where does a football-watching, beer-drinking, lawn-mowing guy meet the poly girl next door?

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1:00 Announcements

  • Geek Girl Con was a blast! Review of my favorite panels as well as the Everything you wanted to know about kink but was afraid to ask panel with Allena Gabosch of the Center for Sex Positive Culture Saturday evening
  • The Geeky Kink Event is November 4-6 in New Jersey, including D&D gaming and TARDIS bondage boxes in the play space!
  • The first Charlotte Poly Meet and Greet is October 16th at 2:00 PM and every other Sunday thereafter at Amelie’s Bakery, 2424 N Davidson St. It’s family-friendly and public, so come out to meet other polys! Email montague.blue@gmail.com for more information.

13:10 Where are the all-American poly girls next door?

LustyGuy makes his debut appearance on the show to answer the question, where does a football-watching, lawn-mowing, beer-drinking, girl-next-door loving American guy go to meet the poly girl next door?

Advice includes doing what you love and meeting others who love the same things: hang out with the local football crowd, join lawn-mowing groups/races and be open to coming out to your neighbors. Also, remember that just because one is poly, the rules of dating don’t change. Go out with your best self and an open mind rather than preconceived ideas about who you will click with.

34:40 Feedback

Nadine likes Anita Wagner’s advice for poly newbies.

35:50 Thanks to our supporters!

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47:20 Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Poly and single: Poly Dating 101

Thrilled to be able to present my favorite talk on dating at Atlanta Poly Weekend!

How To Bring Back My Lost Love gle: Tips for Poly Dating” href=”http://www.slideshare.net/cunningminx/poly-and-single-tips-for-poly-dating”>Poly and single: Tips for Poly Dating

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Poly Weekly 260: Replacing “primary” and “secondary”

Special guest cohost Steve Eley chats about replacing  the term “primary” and gives advice to new poly kinksters

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Introduction and host chat

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Topic: A replacement for “primary” and “secondary”

      Listener question

      • Exploring poly and kink; how do you start dating?
      • What do you do when one partner wants kink only and the other wants full-on sexual relationships?

      Teaser

      Wrap-up
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      Poly Dating 101: Tips for Poly Dating

      Had a great time giving this talk at Poly Living West, hosted for the first time in Seattle! As always, the discussion afterward was far more interesting and thought-provoking. Thanks to everyone who participated!

      Poly Weekly #227: Black Box Republic

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      Introduction and host chat

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      Announcements

      Interview: Sam and April of Black Box Republic

      Sam Lawrence and April talk about the inspiration for hip new sex-positive dating site Black Box Republic, how it came to be, and who should join and why.

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      Wrap-up

      Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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      Poly Weekly #198: 12 Pillars of Polyamory

      This week’s Poly Weekly #198: 12 Pillars of Polyamory.

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      0:00 Introduction and host chat
      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

      You can help build episode 200!
      Call in to 206-309-0806 or attach an mp3 to cunningminx@gmail.com to share your poly lessons learned: “If I knew then what I know now… “–what would you have done differently?

      Announcements
      Poly dating on OK cupid
      This American Life #374: Somewhere Out There

      Topic: 12 Pillars of Polyamory
      From Ken Haslam’s talk at New York PolyPride

      Wrap-up
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      Poly Weekly #178: Five Things to Say on a Date

      This week Poly Weekly #178:Five Things to Say on a Date.

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      0:00 Introduction and host chat
      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

      (burlycon kicked my ass so I am way behind on shownotes.  Lets see if we can fix that.)

      8:30 10 Things Not To Say On A First Date
      Minx goes through the list talking about what she agrees with and what she disagrees with.

      17:26 5 Things To Say On A First Date&lt
      Minx has created a list of things to say on a first date.  She walks us through each one of these.
      SeroLynne’s blog entry on how to start a group
      www.burlycon.com
      New Dublin munch
      Expansive Loving group
      ZA poly South African munch
      Stitcher Radio iphone app
      Podcast Awards

      10 Things Not to Say on a First Date

      Wrap-up
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      Poly Weekly #139: Dirty, rotten cheaters

      The new Polyamory Weekly #139: Dirty, rotten cheaters is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #139

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      0:00 Introduction and host chat
      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments.

      1:30 Announcement: Poly Weekly forums!
      Yes, the Poly Weekly forums are finally up! Discuss show topics or bring up your own questions and topics. Sign up, log in and chat today! Special thanks to Sc00ter for setting them up and to Vincenza for offering to moderate them!

      Minx will miss this month’s Many Loves seminar in Chicago, but only because she’s filming the porn episode for the Midwest Teen Sex Show!

      If you’d like to discuss poly books, check out Joreth’s Shelfari poly book discussion group, with great online resources and book discussions!

      5:00 Topic: Dirty, rotten cheaters
      Amy Gahran’s sending me this internet poll on whether cybersex “counts” as cheating sparked a discussion/rant about what “cheating” actually is, both in monogamy and in polyamory. See how Wikipedia defines cheating.

      16:20 Feedback
      Jeremy wrote in on jealousy from episode 133, blaming society; 18:30 Jamie comments on episode 134, the Love Maps episode, mentioning that the episode might have caused some uncomfortable introspection; 20:45 Scott comments on episode 87 and the idea of “discretion”; 23:00 ML asks for advice on what to do when a metamour breaks your heart–but is still dating your partner

      29:00 Wrap-up
      Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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