1:00 Announcements and Host Chat
- I’ll be teaching at Debauchery April 25-27 in North Carolina
2:00 Topic: Is monogamy natural?
Before we dive into this, what do you hope to accomplish or prove by answering this question? Do you want it to be true or untrue that human beings are naturally monogamous? Why does it matter to you, and how will it affect your behavior?
All the books I recommend are in the Poly Weekly Amazon Store under Polyamory Must Reads or For Sex Scholars.
- The Myth of Monogamy by David Barash and Judith Lipton answer thusly: humans are socially monogamous with a strong tendency toward extra-pair couplings
- Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray and What It Means for Modern Relationships, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. Fascinating review of biological, anthropological and even economic origins of social preconceptions of sex and monogamy. Fun, semi-scholarly reading. Ryan’s TED talk Are We Designed to be Sexual Omnivores? is here.
- Dr. Tatiana’s Sex Advice to All Creation, by Olivia Judson. A cute approach to the biological nature of sexual contact in the animal kingdom, written as a Q and A to an advice columnist. Yeah, as in “why DOES my mate bite off my head after sex”? For a very readable look at sex, monogamy, polyamory and more in the animal kingdom, it’s a great read!
- Why We Love, by Helen Fisher. Fisher, a cultural anthropologist, delves into brain chemistry and the science of attraction. Think you’re the only one who’s ever been in love LIKE THIS? Think again! A fascinating read, even for non-anthropologists. Want a preview? Fisher’s TED 2008 talk on The Brain in Love.
- Anatomy of Love, by Helen Fisher. Another Helen Fisher classic on love, dating and “why we stray.” Humans really aren’t monogamous–find out what we are. Also, Fisher’s TED talk on Why We Love and Why We Cheat is here.
21:00 Happy Poly Moment
Diana shared a Happy Poly Moment about getting not just tolerance but active support within a relationship with differing approaches to polyamory.
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