PW 318: The New Monogamy

Dr. Tammy Nelson shares how the world of online dating, social media and texting has changed marriage and monogamy

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Introduction

Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen

2:00 The New Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson

Dr. Tammy Nelson, therapist and author of a soon-to-be-released book on The New Monogamy, answers questions on the new state of monogamy:

  • Has marriage gone out of fashion?
  • How has online dating affected marriage?
  • Do those who identify as monogamous need to expect infidelity?
  • Are Facebook and texting to blame for affairs?
  • Are affairs actually good for a marriage?
  • What is the new monogamy?

31:40 Feedback

Jess writes in to thank PW for helping her poly family through the introduction of HPV and the tools to help the group be level-headed and talk openly and honestly.

Wrapup

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PW 281: Infidelity will keep us together

What do you think of Dan Savage’s NYT article on non-monogamy?

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Introduction

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

2:45 Book review

PW book reviewer Kurt review’s Kathy Labriola’s Love in Abudance, a Counselor’s Guide to Opening Relationships The book deals with poly effects on current relationships, including dealing with demotion, displacement and intrusion.

8:20 Poly movie review: La Belle Epoque

PW film reviewer Joreth reviews the 1992 Spanish poly-ish film, la Belle Epoque.

15:30 Topic: Dan Savage’s take on infidelity

Discussing the huge, seven-page article in the New York Times exploring Dan Savage’s take on infidelity and the role it plays in keeping monogamous relationships together.

32:45 Feedback

  • John from Lacy responds to 276, “Okay” is a four-letter word, claiming responsibility for communication falls on all parties
  • Emily calls in from a smallish Midwestern college town and asks about Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell in her relationship. If she isn’t comfortable with it, what should she do?

Josh calls in to muse on the question of why we get married to begin with. What is your reason?

45:15 Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Poly Weekly #221: This American Life & Infidelity

This week’s Poly Weekly #221: This American Life & Infidelity.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
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Franklin Veaux
Ellie Lumpesse
Benny

Topic: This American Life: Infidelity
Lance and Serendipity offer feedback on the episode; the co-hosts discuss each act in this disappointing episode

3:26 Discussion begins…
Minx looks forward to this episode of TAL but as she listens to the show, she is not happy with it. Joreth agrees with Minx, wants to know why alternative lifestyles are not brought up as possible ideas. Ellie, on the other hand, felt this was a good episode and enjoyed it. What happens if you fall in love with a cheater? Minx felt that question was missing. Benny was hoping they would have taken a less conventional approach to this topic.

10:20 Discussion Continues…
Joreth appreciated the talk about the pain cheating causes but they didn’t go deep enough. Benny had heard one of the stories from the show at an earlier time and talks about getting more from the story hearing it again. Somebody didn’t agree with Benny (Ellie, i think? people stopped giving names so it got a bit hard) had a different perspective on the story. Joreth chimes in as well.

Franklin gives his perspective on cheating and cheaters.

22:30 Minx reads some feedback from Facebook

27:19 Serendipity called in and left a voice mail comment about the TAL episode.

Benny talks about how some people can’t actually love more than one person. (god i hope those people don’t have more than one kid. -fs)

Lack of science in the TAL episode has been called out as being an issue with the episode.

Thanks everybody!

34:22 Happy poly moment of the week!

34:50 Feedback

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Wrap-up
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