By Cunning Minx, on May 30th, 2011%
Slides from my intro to congoing and con conversation class at ShibariCon. Thanks to everyone who participated!
By Cunning Minx, on May 23rd, 2011%
 Listener W writes in to ask: am I jealous, or is this situation unfair?
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Introduction and host chat
Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com
1:20 Topic: Am I jealous?
Wendy writes in to ask advice from the cohost team: am I jealous? She gets a certain number of hours a week with her top, and compares that to the number of hours his wife enjoys with him. She relays anecdotes of her top engaging in sex with another bottom, which was beyond the scope of their agreement, and with his wife, which was beyond her expectations. She relays a situation in which she watched the children for his and his wife’s anniversary trip, but her own collaring anniversary went unnoticed.
Is she jealous and how should she cope? Cohosts Joreth, Pepper and Franklin share insights and give advice, including making a list of the things she needs to feel secure in a relationship and how she would like for commitment to be shown.
20:40 Announcements
Poly in Pictures blog on jealousy – for a little jealousy humor
21:40 Feedback
- Musqrat comments on the Sister Wives commentary from episode 266, comparing to a sort of institutionalized D/s situation
- A caller who believes in religious polygyny makes a call for tolerance
- DDog calls in to appreciate the term “anchors” from episode 260
35:40 Thanks to Earl and John for their donations
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on May 17th, 2011%
 How kinky are we, really? What is mainstream and what is sexually deviant? Turns out, there’s no such thing as sexual deviance
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1:00 Introduction and host chat
6:00 Topic: You’re not as kinky as you think
Musings over the findings of a massive internet sex survey made into a book, “A Billion Wicked Thoughts,” by Sai Gaddam. Interesting findings include:
- Gay and straight men alike favor chests, butts and feet, in that order
- The top 10 sex searches cover youth, gay, MILFs (go MILFs!), breasts and cheating wives.
- Men fantasize a lot about group sex.
- Straight men prefer amateur porn to highly-produced porn (score one for real boobs and brown hair!)
- Dominance and submission are extremely common searches, not terribly deviant
- Foot fetishes are common across all cultures
- “There’s no such thing as sexual deviance.”
17:55 Feedback
David, 60, shares his experiences organizing and running KanPoly, a Kansas-area discussion and social poly group
19:50 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on March 14th, 2011%
 I love my email inbox some days! I just got an email from a kinkster considering attending his first ShibariCon. He asked me to convince him to come. Since this is one of my favorite cons that I’ve attended nearly every year since its inception, I’m happy to oblige. Wondering if it’s worth the trip? If you have any interest in kink, rope or shibari, it is!
Top 10 Reasons You Should Go to ShibariCon 2011:
- Chicago in May? Lovely!
- Bonus: trip to IML leather market, $2, for the best variety and best prices on leather gear all year.
- Got a costuming fetish? Dress up every day and night if you like!
- Midori. ‘Nuff said.
- Graydancer’s cabaret. Even if your whole day sucked, this will have you cheering.
- Rope twister!
- Hard points, hard points, hard points!
- Sadistic rope tops and hot submissive ass.
- Mollena’s Mojo. Every session she gives fills your brain and makes you laugh.
- You know you’ll regret it if you don’t!
By Cunning Minx, on November 30th, 2010%
 Special guest cohost Steve Eley chats about replacing the term “primary” and gives advice to new poly kinksters
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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Topic: A replacement for “primary” and “secondary”
Listener question
- Exploring poly and kink; how do you start dating?
- What do you do when one partner wants kink only and the other wants full-on sexual relationships?
Teaser
Wrap-up
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By Cunning Minx, on November 22nd, 2010%
 Mollena Williams, monogamous-identified kinktastic chick, talks about entering a poly BDSM arrangement
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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Announcements
Interview: Mollena Williams, the Perverted Negress
- Are you poly-identified? Why or why not?
- How did an emotionally monogamous person gel with entering a poly BDSM, cross-country arrangement?
- Why is this banana magic?
- The importance of metamours
- Visit Mo and her mojo at her site
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
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By Cunning Minx, on November 16th, 2010%
 Princess Kali of The Kink Academy talks about the intersection of kink and poly online
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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Announcements
Miss Poly Manners: Dealing with Party Invites
How do you deal with party invitations not addressed to the entire poly enclave?
Interview: Princess Kali of The Kink Academy
Teaser
- From Poly and Single: what to do when the couple is fighting
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
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By Cunning Minx, on June 4th, 2010%
This year, ShibariCon was a fantastically exhausting experience! I almost didn’t go–too much work to do, and too many mundane tasks relating to some real estate I still own in the area. Grudgingly, I admitted that OK, I’ve committed to volunteer; of course I’ll go. But I won’t have fun.
And when I arrived, something changed. All the alienation I’d been feeling due to Seattle’s famous chilly reception melted away. It melted in the warm hugs of friends I was genuinely happy to see and who were genuinely happy to see me. For the first time in over a year, I felt like I belonged in the scene. Doubts, fears and insecurities melted away in the face of catching up with old friends and making new ones. I became the classic Minx, happy, bouncy and ready to have some fun.
I don’t want to be all cheesy and tell you not to be afraid of going to a conference alone. It still sucks to do that, and it’s still hard to try to connect with people in a weekend setting when you’re flying solo. You’ll still get turned down or blown off for scenes; I know I did and was. But my experience ended up being so deliciously positive that I want to share that joy, just in case it might inspire bravery the next time you fly solo at an event.
Stuff I Learned at ShibariCon 2010
- I do belong here. The only one thinking otherwise was me.
- When I am my own best self, wonderful things happen. And when I feel at home and welcomed, I am my own best self. Self-doubt is what kills the confidence, and without confidence, nothing is fun.
- Scheduling at a con is hard/tricky. Cut yourself and your play partners some slack.
- Don’t take it personally. Instead, find a way to take care of yourself that involves sharing your pain (and joy) with others.
- Hide your crazy. But let little bits show in fits of controlled vulnerability. A controlled burn, if you will.
- Never compare yourself to others in any way. Instead, focus on what is making today awesome for you. If you close your eyes and feel a lack of awesome, put your finger on why, and then go ask for that.
- Geek negotiation tip: if you’re unsure of where to start but you know you want to play, instead of asking a person for a scene or play, ask trusted friends whom they would recommend for play who might be free tonight.
- Give your cell phone # to hot guys/girls so they can text you. (Outside the con space, of course)
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Love yourself. Love your kink. Be fascinated by others’ kink.
All of this has me thinking about teaching a ShibariCon for Newbies/Solos class next year, with specific activities designed to help people check their emotional baggage at the door and have the confidence to have fun. Wouldn’t that be a GREAT way to start a con?
By Cunning Minx, on February 26th, 2010%
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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Cohosts
Franklin Veaux
Pepper Mint
Announcements
Topic: how do poly and kink mix?
Sarah wrote in to ask how the egalitarian poly aspect mixes with more ostensibly hierarchical BDSM and its focus on power exchange. Such a nice, juicy topic!
Feedback
Annie shares definitions of polyamory, philosophically poly and practicing polyamorous; Mus Q Rat writes in to correct origin story of “polyamory” (vs. “polyamorous”); Arioch compliments episode 226 on finding a partner
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
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By Cunning Minx, on November 14th, 2008%
Kinky or kink-curious? Wanna sit on Minx’s lap? Or just wanna grab a drink and be around cool, crazy cats?
Come on out to the Lost Generation munch!
When: Tuesday, Nov. 18th, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Where: Avenue Ale House, 825 S Oak Park Ave, Oak Park, IL 60304, street/meter parking available, 2 blocks west of the Blue Line Oak Park stop, 8 blocks south of the Green Line Oak Park stop
Why: to meet, eat, drink and chat with other kinksters, aged 18-85
We’ll be in the back; just ask for “TLGC” at the hostess desk, and she’ll bring you right back to us. Please RSVP so I have an idea of how many tables to push together, and please feel free to cross-post!
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