Poly Weekly #180: Are Happy Endings Cheating?

This week Poly Weekly #180:Are happy endings cheating?.

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3:07 Minx talks about the article she read about a woman who encouraged her husband to get a “happy ending.” The article was from mom logic.

4:45 Minx brings up the comments, the most interesting part of these type of articles.

5:10 Only a small majority considered “happy endings” cheating.

5:40 Minx goes through the actual comments on the site. and providing her feedback on these comments.

8:10 10 comments in and finally somebody brings up a more supportive comment.

10:20 Minx talks about how great strip clubs are!

10:50 Minx asks the questions, how would this woman feel if the husband wanted to do this regularly?

12:30 What if you aren’t the only thing your husband needs?

14:30 It is important that everybody has the same definitions for terms (e.g. cheating).

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly Book Club meets WEDNESDAY, JUNE 4, 6:00 p.m.

Hello, all!

This month will be more of a munch, since most of us haven’t had time to order and read the book yet. But go ahead and order it, come this month, munch with us, and we’ll discuss the book next month!

The book: John Gottman’s The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work
When: WEDNESDAY, JUNE 4, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Where: The Center on Halsted, 2nd floor white couches

Also, The Mad Baker of Green Bay is taking requests for snacks–what yummies would you like for him to bake for us this time?

Also, I’d like to ask y’all a question. A documentary filmmaker from CurrentTV is doing a short documentary on how Poly Weekly is made. I’m toying with the idea of inviting him to this munch/book club meeting, mostly because I’d like the publicity for the Center on Halsted. However, I’d have to instruct him to keep the camera on me ONLY and not on the group at all. IF there were a camera there documenting the making of PW, would it deter you from coming? Would it hinder your participation?

Please be honest–I’d rather have a good munch than good footage. Thank you!

RSVP with subject line “Book Club” to cunningminx@gmail.com or reply here so I know to look for you. Thanks!

Poly Weekly #146: Sexy Shenanigans!

The new Polyamory Weekly #146: Sexy Shenanigans! is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #146

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:50 Fun, Sexy Shenanigans!
Vincenza co-hosts today as we comment on sexy, silly articles!

  • Do you want to be a honey trapper? It’s a new take on detective agencies: honey trappers tempt spouses to see if they’ll cheat
  • 6:20 R sent in a fantastic new word in the Urban Dictionary: choreplay! Get turned on by watching your partner do your chores!
  • 7:30The Joy of Christian Sex Toys. Ever wonder what a Christian sex toy store would look like? Here it is!
  • 15:10Fighting with your spouse is good for your health–read the article here
  • 18:50 Did you know that Amelia Earhart had a prenuptual agreement specifying that they not be faithful to each other? See it here.

21:25 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

21:50 BEST OF POLY WEEKLY COLLECTIONS NOW AVAILABLE!
Visit PodDisc.com to purchase a collection of my ten favorite episodes of Poly Weekly. If you haven’t listened to the whole back catalogue, this is the disc for you!

Poly Weekly #142: LIVE from Arisia Sci-Fi

The new Polyamory Weekly #142: Live from the Arisia science-fiction convention is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #142

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:30 Announcements & Promo stuff

  • Next weekend, I’ll be hosting both a podcasting and polyamory panel at Conflation in Saint Louis. This year is a Firefly theme, and I can’t wait to try out my new Inara costume!
  • Next meeting of the Poly Weekly Book Club will be Wednesday, February 27th, 6:00-9:00 p.m. at the Center on Halsted, 2nd floor, white couches; we’ll be continuing our discussion of Ravenscroft’s Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and the Hopeful
  • Upcoming workshops: And Boyfriend/Girlfriend Makes Three: Negotiating Nonmonogamy, Saturday, February 23rd, noon-1:30 p.m., A Woman’s Touch in Madison; or Wednesday, March 19th, 6:00-7:30 in Milwaukee

  • 3:25 Promo for Nawashi, a novel of erotic magic, available from Podiobooks.com
  • The new Poly Weekly promo will be up in the feed next

  • We’re trying to get 100 reviews on iTunes; if you’d like, please review Poly Weekly by clicking here!
  • 5:30 Report: Poly Panels at the Arisia Science Fiction Convention
    Alan interviews Shava from a panel on being poly in a straight world; Michelle Wexelblack discusses poly-mono relationship; 14:00 Dr. Solomon Davidoff discusses the poly community compared to other subcultures; Alan talks about creating a temporary tribe

    17:50 Topic: Why Does My Spouse Irritate Me So Much?
    Minx discusses this article on marriage only getting worse–your spouse will end up annoying the heck outta you!

    21:45 Wrap-up
    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

    Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Weekly #128: Free Gift with New Purchase!

The new Polyamory Weekly #128: Free Gift with New Purchase! is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments.

1:20 Announcements

  • Check out the new LiveJournal community, Poly_german for German-speaking polys
  • Loving More is hosting a one-day hotel seminar on November 3rd at the Clarion Airport in the Bay Area

3:30 Topic: Free Gift with New Purchase
Minx and Steve Eley discuss the idea of free gift with new purchase. You know, that great bonus gift you get when companies are trying to woo you–free cosmetic bag, cheap cable, low introductory interest rates on your credit card? How about not treating your old partner like your credit card company treats you–great stuff when you first sign up, but nothing special after they’ve “got” you. How about a reward for loyal, existing customers? How come just the new, NRE relationship gets all the goodies? Steve shares how he rewards his wife with bonus stuff when he starts a new relationship with someone else. In short, here’s how to keep your existing partner from feeling like and old cable customer while your new partner gets all the goodies. And Chore Wars? Yeah.

22:30 Listener Feedback: the Four-Year Itch
Grizzly audio comments that the first four are the basis relationship and the next two are to see if it will work after; Minx comments that it should be about making a deliberate relationship choice instead of “forever” being the default; Steve says there should always be a check-in feature to relationships; Laura asks why get married at all then?; Minx rants that there are many things that are worth enjoying in life that don’t last forever, including:

  1. Your childhood
  2. Your grandmother
  3. Christmas dinner with your family
  4. That great pizza you had last night
  5. Firefly
  6. The New York Marathon
  7. Mardi Gras
  8. The first snowfall of the year
  9. Flowers
  10. Boobs

38:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

Poly Weekly #127: Radical Ideas on Marriage

The new Polyamory Weekly #127: Radical Ideas on Marriage is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com;
friend me on Twitter
and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments.

2:00 Announcement: Many Loves workshop in Chicago, October 20th!
Many Loves: Workshop for Individuals and Families Practicing or Curious About Non-Monogamy. This workshop provides a supportive and safe environment for people to explore issues of non-monogamous practice and identity. Topics to be covered include: stigma management, safer sex issues, physical and emotional intimacy, boundaries, jealousy, cheating and infidelity in non-monogamous relationships, types of non-monogamy within relationships (open relationships, polyamory, etc), families and children, the workplace, resources, social networks and alternative identities.

Saturday, October 20th, from 10AM to 1PM at the Center on Halsted (3656 North Halsted, Chicago, IL 60613). There is a $15 fee for this workshop and you must be aged 18 years or older to attend. Please contact David Rodemaker (472-6469 x 472) with any questions.

3:30 Topic: An Essay on Marriage by Nobilis
Nobilis discusses his ideas on marriage as a contract; what the justifications for and consequences of divorce show about the legal and contract nature of marriage; radical ideas on how to negotiate the marriage contract. Please answer his intriguing question: if you were creating your marriage from scratch with no legal or religious preconceptions, what would YOU put into your marriage contact? Minx wants to know! For his erotica, visit his site.

12:00 Listener feedback: the Seven-Year Itch
James comments that six years is about right–four years for the marriage, and two years to fight to see if they want to stay together; Crispin from Perth, Australia sends in an audio comment on how he pre-arranged the length of his marriage with his wife; Minx comments that what you negotiate now may not be what is important to you in five, ten or 20 years; Nobilis sends an audio comment about using a family contract with a limited term and specified structure

17:30 Listener feedback: Dealing with ex’s socially
James comments on additional factors in how long you should wait before being socially comfortable with your ex; E writes in from the other camp–she doesn’t feel any need to stay in touch with ex’s, but does speak up when she sees unhealthy patterns with the ex and current partner

20:55 Topic follow-up: STD rates in circumcized vs. uncircumsized men
Evan wrote in to comment that male circumcision is associated with reduced risk of genital HPV infection in men whether or not their female partners have cervical HPV or cervical cancer. Circumcision is associated with reduced risk of cervical cancer in women with high-risk sexual partners. In men with low-risk sexual behaviour and monogamous female partners, circumcision makes no difference to the risk of cervical cancer. The actual study is here.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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