PW 356: The poly hype cycle

Where do we sit on the media hype cycle for polyamory?

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1:00 Topic: Where are we on the poly hype cycle?

The fabulous Sierra Black wrote a response to Andrea Zanin’s polynormativity post and pondered how to be more inclusive in our media representations. Minx suggests that polyamory is in the rising phase of the hype cycle and suffering from inflated expectations.

Other links: Jenny Block’s book Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage

Pedestrian Polyamory podcast

19:25 Happy Poly Moment

S shares a moment that is not especially happy but when polyamory’s benefits and love shine.

22:00 Thank you

Thanks to Michael for his donations this week! Plus, app subscribers and Poly Weekly Playmates got a little something extra last week. :-) Thank you for supporting PW!

Wrap up

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PW 354: Wife Swap

When a poly family swaps wives with a right-wing family on a reality TV show, who comes off better?

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1:00 Announcements and host chat

  • LustyGuy is cohosting!

2:00 Topic: Polyamory on Wife Swap

On the reality TV show Wife Swamp, a polyamorous family swapped wives (not sexual, just lifestyle) with a right-wing religious family. Who came off better? Across the board, reviewers agree it was the poly family!

31:50 Happy Poly Moment

Dominic from Wisconsin calls in to share a moment in which life rewards courage!

35:00 Feedback: Episode 350

  • AggieSez calls in to let us know about unmarried equality
  • Frank writes in to ask why there are any tax benefits at all to marriage
  • Jason comments that we should have marriage be defined by the individuals involved, not the government
  • S shares her situation in which she lives with partners and then married one, which brought up conflicting emotions regarding the other relationship. No answers, but she poses some great questions.
  • Edward reminds us about marriage in the Roman Empire.

46:00 Thank you

Thanks to Marshall, Isabelle, Denise and Kerra for their donations this week!

Wrap up

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PW 353: Polynormativity

Is there a polynormative model in the media? And if so, what issues can that create for poly newbies?

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1:00 Announcements and host chat

  • Had a great time at Conflation; thanks to everyone for making us feel relaxed and welcome!
  • Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
  • Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!

Interview: Andrea Zanin on polynormativity

Andrea’s longish essay on the problem with polynormativity is here. You can find Andrea’s essays on her Sex Geek blog.

Wrap up

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Poly Weekly 231: Poly in the media at Arisia

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements
Poly Weekly iPhone app with PDF show notes and audio extras is available now!

Topic: Poly in the media at Arisia sci-fi convention
Moderated by Alan Wexelblat, this panel is about poly practitioners and activists who deal with the media, their tips and advice. The Boston Globe article that they refer to is here.

Happy Poly Moment
Herbalwise shares his HPM.

Wrap-up
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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

2:00 Promo: Nawashi on Podiobooks
Please check out Nawashi, Graydancer’s novel of erotic magic, available for free download at PodioBooks.com, now the #1 PodioBook

4:30 Announcements
The Negotiating Non-Monogamy seminar at A Woman’s Touch in Madison went GREAT! While I created a lot of materials for the class, we used them as a jumping-off point rather than as a structured class outline; we did more interactive discussion. Next seminar is on MARCH 19TH, 6:00 P.M. at A Woman’s Touch in Milwaukee–register now!

6:40 Poly in the Media
Alan reports on the Washington Post’s feature article on the Poly Living conference; the original article is here; also, a professor at the University of Missouri describes her research into poly people and STD transmission when she heard the astounding statistic that it is safer to have protected sex with 100 people than unprotected sex with one; 11:37 another professor expresses her awe at how well poly people manage relationships

12:15 Interviews: from the UIC Polyamory Panel
Mary talks about the panel questions she was expecting; her daughter Madison introduces herself; Mary comments on the discussion about how bisexuality fits into polyamory; 14:00 Stacy (from Canada) comment on the makeup of the audience; open to differences in poly; didn’t want panel to define the box for them; life partners/friendships/commitment; no one brought up cheating; swinging vs poly communities; her path to poly

19:55 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

The effervescent Ms. Bussel makes a case for open relationships

Hoorah to the ever-fabulous and sexy Rachel Kramer Bussel for writing a fun little exploration into polyamory in The Case for Open Relationships.

Know what I like about this article? She doesn’t come across as dissing monogamy at all. She says, “for many people, monogamy works just fine” and “if you are in a monogamous relationship, I encourage you to stay within the rules of your relationship, or speak to your partner, rather than simply cheat.” But she also quotes Betty Dodson (and how jealous am I that Rachel got to meet her!) as saying, “America practices serial monogamy with cheating on the side. It’s never acknowledged and it’s lied about.”

So true. If monogamy worked for everyone, then Jerry Springer wouldn’t have a talk show.

But it still always amazes me than anyone writing an article saying basically, “Hey, monogamy is fine if you like it, but here’s another option” still get ridiculously uninformed comments such as “I suppose you can make the case that sleeping around openly is preferable to swearing monogamy but cheating on the side. Well, maybe. Robbery is preferable to murder, too, I guess.”

Wha-huh? Someone needs to take a class in logic, methinks. But a lot of people did engage in some good discourse in the comments, so I encourage you to read them as well.

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