PW 492: Hitting on metamours

10173860 - close up of a little girl taking a cookie behind her motherIs it OK to hit on my cute same sex metamours? Or just lazy?

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1:00 Poly in the News

5:40 Topic: Is it OK to hit on my metamours?

Was writes in to ask about being attracted to same-sex metamours on the outer branches of the polycule. Will one be perceived as predatory or lazy for just picking up all the same sex cuties from the group? Is that bad form?

13:15 Feedback

Harry calls in to offer a “time out” of the relationship as useful in addition to the “check in”

16:00 Happy Poly Moment

Was writes in to share a happy poly moment, when her partner volunteered to pick up her metamour from the airport!

17:40 Wrap up

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PW 488: Negotiating metamour meets

My husband and I disagree on how soon to meet metamours–how do we negotiate this?

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negotiating metamour meets


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1:00 Host chat

Tina Horn’s excellent response to Pamela Anderson’s new anti-porn stance

4:15 Poly in the News

A clueless journalist’s ignorance on display and the community response to it

7:45 Topic: Negotiating metamour meets

Listener Michelle writes in to ask about how to negotiate metamour meetings when she wants to meet metamours right away, but her husband would rather wait a few weeks. Or months. Or never. She writes that he agrees reluctantly to meet partners, and to introduce her to his, but they are not sure how to determine when we should introduce new partners to each other. She feels like she’d rather meet his new partners after no more than two or three dates, whereas he thinks that seems unnecessarily soon. How can they solve the impasse?

  • What do you need to be happy and healthy?
  • What does he need to be happy and healthy?
  • Negotiate from there
  • Find ways to make it more comfortable and less awkward
  • In general, as with safer sex, the lowest common denominator wins

14:30 Feedback

  • A writes about the challenges of asexuality because A does seek romantic relationships and appears mainstream, but “sex gets in the way” and is happy we are talking more about asexuality
  • Christina writes in about how hard she, as a poly meetup organizer, works to promote tolerance and acceptance of her group, including discrimination against monogamy and monogamists

19:00 Happy Poly Moment

  • GreedyPaul called in to say he was courageous and started his own poly group!
  • Sean writes in that his mistress is welcome for the weekend!

22:00 Wrap up

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Poly Weekly #222: Metamours, Change and Insecurity

This week’s Poly Weekly #222: Metamours & Change.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

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Cohosts
Joreth
Franklin Veaux
Boone Dryden

Topic: Dealing with metamours in a changing relationship
Listener calls in to ask for advice with a situation in which she begins dating Sean when he and Jill were broken up. When Sean and Jill reconcile, Jill doesn’t wish to have a child while unmarried, so they marry with caller’s blessing, who hopes Jill will then be happy and secure. However, Jill continues to be even more hostile towards the caller. What to do?

Hosts bring up the issues of assumptions: what does marriage mean to you? Where do you see each person’s place in the new relationship?

Happy poly moment of the week!
EdgesBiz: seeing three loving faces after orgasm
Katie: family support after ACL injury

Feedback: Poly Weekly 219: Success and Divorce
Frances and Jazmin offer Steve Pavlina support via Facebook
“Needing a cuddle”
• “Fuzzy”
• Eynstein suggests “tjØnndau” or “shundy”
Doolies called in about getting love and support during an HSV episode

Wrap-up
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