PW 350: To fight or not to fight… for poly marriage

Is legalization of poly marriage worth the battle?

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1:00 Announcements and host chat

  • I will be hosting a poly panel and helping to emcee at Conflation in Saint Louis February 22-24
  • Also a Write Your Own User Manual session followed by a meet and greet at Shameless Grounds coffee shop on Sunday, February 24th at 7:00 PM. Come join us! Calendar info
  • Hidden Social: Where Sexual Variants Gather Online session at SXSWi on Sunday, March 10, 3:30 PM with Herb Coleman, Adjunct Professor of Psychology at UT Austin ( #hiddensoc )
  • Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
  • Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!

6:00 Topic: should we fight for legalization of poly marriage?

Mistress Matisse’s article on the legalization of poly marriage debate: You May Now Kiss the Bride and the Other Bride and the Other Bride and the Other Groom: Why Poly Marriage Is Never Going to Happen

What are your thoughts on fighting to legalize poly marriage? Do you care? Would you fight for it for the next 20 years like the gays did?

17:50 Happy Poly Moment

Vicki shares a fun snogging-oriented happy poly moment

19:45 Feedback

  • CL wrote in to quote a study on how long it actually takes to create a habit. Turns out, it’s not the oft-quoted 21 days, but anywhere from 21 to 84 days, depending on the habit. Source: Author: Jeremy Dean; Title: Making Habits, Breaking Habits; Publisher: Da Capo Press; Date: Copyright 2013 by Jeremy Dean; Pages: 3-7
  • Space Hippie Geek wrote in to respond to episode 300 on couple privilege and took issue with three points:
    • conflating a triad and a vee (in a vee there is no romantic relationship between two of the partners)
    • pointing out (quite rightly) that, “don’t only want to feel as if I’m being added onto an established family. I also want to feel that my boyfriend is joining my family. Even if I don’t have another partners, and am not close to my birth family. Even just by myself, I am a family, a household. I have my own traditions, customs, and ways of doing things.”
    • While there are benefits to having everyone talk together, communicating as a group isn’t always necessary.
    • Mitch advocates for my voice not being used for the proliferation of toxic sludge

29:45  Wrap up

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Poly Weekly 257: Is it all about the sex?

Is the dark secret of polyamory that sometimes it is about the sex with multiple partners?

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • MomentumCon is coming up April 1-3, 2011 in Washington, D.C.
  • Virginia poly meetup: Saturday, November 13th 4pm-6pm, Borders in manassas, 11270 Bulooch Dr, Manassas VA 20109, look for the parrot contact Grace: doyenworking@gmail.com, Becky: rebecca.loveking@gmail.com
  • Perverts of Color
  • SteamCon Nov, 19-21, Seattle

Topic: Is it all about the sex?

Happy Poly Moments

  • Thanks to Grace, Christian and Tina for sharing

Wrap-up
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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Poly Weekly #148: Is monogamy “natural”?

The new Polyamory Weekly #148: Is monogamy “natural”? is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #148

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:40 Announcements

5:05 Is monogamy “natural” for humans?
Based on the last few sentences of the Sun-Times article, Minx talks about the question of whether monogamy is “natural” for humans. Minx clarifies that social monogamy is natural for humans–we form pair bonds naturally and participate in extra-pair couplings on the side

17:50 Anniversary announcement
A loving anniversary announcement from one listener to another–CONGRATULATIONS!

19:05 Listener feedback
Nobilis calls in about poly rules mentioned in Mistress Matisse’s latest podcast; he is monogamous but permitted to form long-term intimate friendships and to dance with other women as long as he dances with the tallest person in the room first
24:00 For those with a Blackberry Pearl, the call-in number is: 206-202-7659

26:10 Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly #129: A Year and a Half In

The new Polyamory Weekly #129: A Year and a Half In is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #129

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments.

2:00 Interview: Max and Lorelei
Warning: this interview entails descriptions of a D/s relationship
Max and a naked Lorelei share with a naked Minx how they met; Lorelei shares how she found a place in an already busy poly household, which includes Mistress Matisse and Twisted Monk as well. Lorelei shares how they met and became Max’s service submissive in the household; 13:00 they address the “ripples” or adjustments that had to be made in the existing household to make room for Lorelei; 15:30 Max discusses that his new relationship was more threatening to his secondary partners than to Matisse because they felt they had less stability; time management; the No-Surprises rule; 22:40 Lorelei addresses the state of her current poly and how not bottoming to others for a while has expanded some of her BDSM skills; the value of having a supportive metamour like Mistress Matisse

29:00 Wrap-up
Thanks again to Max and Matisse for their hospitality; also to Monk and Freudian_slip for their hospitality as well!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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