PW 318: The New Monogamy

Dr. Tammy Nelson shares how the world of online dating, social media and texting has changed marriage and monogamy

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Introduction

Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen

2:00 The New Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson

Dr. Tammy Nelson, therapist and author of a soon-to-be-released book on The New Monogamy, answers questions on the new state of monogamy:

  • Has marriage gone out of fashion?
  • How has online dating affected marriage?
  • Do those who identify as monogamous need to expect infidelity?
  • Are Facebook and texting to blame for affairs?
  • Are affairs actually good for a marriage?
  • What is the new monogamy?

31:40 Feedback

Jess writes in to thank PW for helping her poly family through the introduction of HPV and the tools to help the group be level-headed and talk openly and honestly.

Wrapup

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PW 316: Queer is a verb

Dr. Charlie Glickman on using “queer” as a verb rather than an adjective or noun; the origins of Good Vibrations

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Introduction

Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen

1:00 News and host chat

  • OpenSF is June 8-10 in San Francisco

3:20 Interview: Dr. Charlie Glickman

Dr. Glickman teaches how to teach sexuality topics to adults and runs the workshops and outreach at Good Vibrations as well as the social media and web presence; he’s speaking on “Queer as a Verb” and approaching “queering” as a practice as opposed to who you have sex with. What do the mainstream-identified need to know about the queer identity in order to understand, tolerate and help; how to play with the edges; how Good Vibes came about (when women started buying toys and wouldn’t tolerate shoddy craftsmanship!).

17:45 Thanks

Thanks to Joseph for the one-time donation and welcome Clinton to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

Wrap up

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PW 315: What would monogamists do?

#mconFreshly returned from MomentumCon, a recap of the sessions on feminism, sexuality and sex-positivism today. Plus, using “what would monogamists do?” as a guiding question.

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Introduction

Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen

1:00 News and host chat

20:45 Topic: What would monogamists do?

A listener writes in to ask how to act around her partner’s OSO (metamour) and challenges the What Would Monogamists Do guiding question. How much flirting is OK around your SO and OSO, and how should you act towards your metamour in social situations?

29:30 Happy Poly Moment

  • Summersnake shares a moment of compersion when sending his wife off to spend time with her sweetie
  • Don writes in to share compersion and joy at his partner’s meeting the metamours

33:25 Feedback

Taylor on controlled male orgasms through controlling the flow of chi

Wrap up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

How not to be a douche on FetLife

It is always my divine pleasure to present on just about any topic at MomentumCon, one of my favorite sex-positive events. It’s always chock-full of luminaries and sexy thought leaders with forward-looking ideas and insights. Great stuff!

My talk this year was a little more down and dirty. Based on the research you guys helped me conduct, I created a deck of guidelines based on the biggest complaints users made regarding sex-positive community sites such as FetLife. Without further ado, here it is: How Not to Be a Douche on FetLife.

How not to be a douche on FetLife

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Why MomentumCon rawks

Cunning Minx, Anita Wagner, Brian Ballard, Mia Martina

Back from the flurry of sex-positive fun that was MomentumCon, and there are just too many good vibes to squish into one blog post. Fortunately for you, I’m home sick with something I’m convinced was given to me by a friend I had lunch with just before leaving for the con. (Yes, I now need to beat him up as promised.)

If you’ve never been to MomentumCon (and you probably haven’t, since it was the first one, although if you’ve been to Sex 2.0, you’ll know what I’m talking about), you should go for one very good reason: you will fit in. Kinky? Great; there are sessions on kink. Vanilla? No problem; there are no kink-specific parties, so you won’t be left out. Sex worker? Perfect; there are always sessions on how to be, support or even date sex workers. Sex Geek? Oh, you’ll be right at home. Gender queer blogger? There’s a session for you, and you’ll meet a dozen others like you. Poly activist? You’ll love the sessions on poly and the poly-friendly atmosphere. Monogamous? No worries; enjoy the sessions on tantric sex or chat with a porn star.  New media geek? Oh, honey, have we got sessions for you: panels, sessions and a Twitter stream to die for. Into burlesque, stripping, erotica, podcasting, masturbation, racial issues, identity issues? MomentumCon has got it.

In short, this is a con for whatever “sex-positive” means to you. This is a con that crosses identities, and it does it very well.

Want to know more?

  • For a taste of what the con is like, take a peek at my pictures from MomentumCon.
  • The slide deck from my own talk on Personal Branding for the Sex-Positive Educator. I’ve been asked to give this talk at several events, and I’m thrilled it always goes over so well!
  • Also, keep an eye on the podcast stream, as I’ll be posting the audio from my own talk as well as the audio from the podcasting panel.

And a big shout out to Tess Danesi and Dee Dennis for putting together such an astounding event. The presenters and attendees alike were raving about it, and with good reason. This is a good one, folks.

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