Poly Weekly #223: Communicating while angry & realism in relationships

This week’s Poly Weekly #223: Communicating while angry & realism in relationships.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

  • Anal sex in accordance with God’s will
  • Polyagony: The mixed feeling you get when your sweetie is dating someone new. A mixture of: “I’m so happy for you!” with “Teehee! Tell me all the juicy details!” with, “But I’m still pretty, right?”
  • Ann Arbor Poly Network: munch the second Friday, 7:30 p.m., at Pizza House; discussion group third Thursday at WRAP (319 Braun Ct.)

Cohosts
Joreth
Pepper

Topic: Communicating while angry
From the forums: a different way to communicate when angry

Topic: Realism in Relationships
Jenny Block wrote this response to Tiger Wood’s cheating: monogamy isn’t realistic. How would you respond? Thanks to JazzDuck for commenting via Twitter!

Happy Poly Moment
Courtesy of PolyWolf

Feedback
Vim wrote in about poly anime, Marmalade Boy

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #221: This American Life & Infidelity

This week’s Poly Weekly #221: This American Life & Infidelity.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements
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Cohosts
Joreth
Franklin Veaux
Ellie Lumpesse
Benny

Topic: This American Life: Infidelity
Lance and Serendipity offer feedback on the episode; the co-hosts discuss each act in this disappointing episode

3:26 Discussion begins…
Minx looks forward to this episode of TAL but as she listens to the show, she is not happy with it. Joreth agrees with Minx, wants to know why alternative lifestyles are not brought up as possible ideas. Ellie, on the other hand, felt this was a good episode and enjoyed it. What happens if you fall in love with a cheater? Minx felt that question was missing. Benny was hoping they would have taken a less conventional approach to this topic.

10:20 Discussion Continues…
Joreth appreciated the talk about the pain cheating causes but they didn’t go deep enough. Benny had heard one of the stories from the show at an earlier time and talks about getting more from the story hearing it again. Somebody didn’t agree with Benny (Ellie, i think? people stopped giving names so it got a bit hard) had a different perspective on the story. Joreth chimes in as well.

Franklin gives his perspective on cheating and cheaters.

22:30 Minx reads some feedback from Facebook

27:19 Serendipity called in and left a voice mail comment about the TAL episode.

Benny talks about how some people can’t actually love more than one person. (god i hope those people don’t have more than one kid. -fs)

Lack of science in the TAL episode has been called out as being an issue with the episode.

Thanks everybody!

34:22 Happy poly moment of the week!

34:50 Feedback

Poly Weekly 218: Poly in the UK

Poly Weekly 213: Group Sex and Orgies

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #219: Success and Divorce

This week’s Poly Weekly #219: Success and Divorce.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

This week’s cohosts
PepperMint, bisexual and poly activist
Joreth, poly/kinky activist

Announcements

  • Please take the Wizzard podcast survey
  • Family DVDs available for $25
  • Global Orgasm Day is December 21st
  • ADutch magazine YES is running an article on Polyamory in their January 20-27 edition. Twitter @ageethveenemans if you’re 20-27 and available for an interview.
  • The site Modern Poly is up and running; register here
  • Open Love New York’s first major event is scheduled for Saturday, Nov. 14, at the Lyons Wier Gallery on Seventh Avenue at 20th Street in Manhattan
  • Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio will be presenting Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet at Seattle’s Sharma Center Nov 21 and 22. Email RSVP@sharmacenter.org to RSVP. Facebook page here.

Topic: Success and Divorce
Prompted by Steve Pavlina’s public announcement of divorce, we discuss how the public can easily blame a divorce decision on poly explorations

A gleeful blogger criticizes Pavlina
Pavlina’s sensitive and thoughtful explanation of his family’s separation
Pavlina’s coming out post
Three more posts on polyamory

Happy Poly Moment
Greyson’s supportive coming out story

Feedback
Poly Weekly 215: Christianity & sexual ethics
Steve Eley found the approach refreshing

Poly Weekly 216: Is polygamy feminist?

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #212: Monogamy Men

This week’s Poly Weekly #221: Monogamy Men.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Welcome to our co-host, Amy Gahran!

[Rough show notes; full show notes to come]Topic: Monogamy Men
Call to monogamous men
Sexy Sadie’s response

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #206: If Sanford were polyamorous

This week’s Poly Weekly #206: If Sanford were polyamorous (or “Sanford and Sin”).

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Topic: If Mark Sanford were polyamorous
Sanford’s emails
Loving More’s press release
Article: the Sanctity of Truth
OpinionatedThought’s blog post on ‘Love as thou wilt’
Dan Savage’s take

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #203: Poly History 201 with Oberon Zell

Oberon ZellThis week’s Poly Weekly #203: Poly History 201 with Oberon Zell.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Topic: Natural Sexuality
Natural Sexuality, a hysterical blog post detailing the meeting of the Animal Association of Family Values. Our discussion features NotThat’Nilla as Lion and other animals!

Topic: Poly History 201, Oberon Zell
Oberon Zell Ravenhart speaks at the Occult Bookstore in Chicago on founding polyamory and the Church of All Worlds

1:30 Minx shares a blog post from BlagHag called “natural sexuality.” NotThatNilla and Minx read to us from the blog article.

6:00 Oberon Zell and Poly 201
Oberon talks about another scifi book, “Courtship Ritual” and how it sets examples for starting a poly family and talks further about the poly conference.

10:00 Oberon talks about how him and his family’s involvement with the poly movement started becoming less and less.

11:57 Oberon talks about a break up in his family’s relationship which led to the coming together of another one, the ravenheart clan.

13:50 He then talks about his family writing a FAQ on polyamory and how that brought media attention.

16:10 Oberon talks about how easy poly was for him and his family.

19:20 What is polyamory?

(man, i can turn it -sex i mean- into something nasty and dirty! -fs)

23:15 some of the benefits for polyamory.

33:30 Listener Feedback
Alex wrote in with kudos for Escape Pod and PW.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #197: Monogamy at Poly Living

This week’s Poly Weekly #197: Monogamy at Poly Living.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

You can help build episode 200!
Call in to 206-309-0806 or attach an mp3 to cunningminx@gmail.com to share your poly lessons learned: “If I knew then what I know now… “–what would you have done differently?

Interview: Gini and Lauren, monogamists at Poly Living
Gini and Lauren share their experiences at monogamous documentors of Poly Living 2009.

4:20 Minx Interviews Jenny Trask and Lauren
Jenny and Lauren are monogamous at the poly living conference. Minx talks to them to get their impressions of the conference.

Minx talks about lessons learned with Jenny and Lauren. Jenny talks about how the skills necessary for poly relationship are very much like what you need for monogamous relationships. Jenny also brought up the jealousy workshop and how much they enjoyed it.

Lauren talked about learning from the interviews and one on one discussions.

Minx asks Jenny about her sisters, Robin.

Lauren talks about the filming process and what they have been shooting.

Discussion moves to challenges in monogamy.

21:00 Minx wraps up her experiences of Conflation

25:00 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
a listener wrote in with an awesome story of of a marriage ceremony between 3 lovers.

26:30 Listener Feedback
Tara called in about episode 146.

PolyOldFart wrote in about Tacit’s interview. POF mentions that sometimes being honest about your ex isn’t always trashing, it is necessary.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #180: Are Happy Endings Cheating?

This week Poly Weekly #180:Are happy endings cheating?.

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Article here

3:07 Minx talks about the article she read about a woman who encouraged her husband to get a “happy ending.” The article was from mom logic.

4:45 Minx brings up the comments, the most interesting part of these type of articles.

5:10 Only a small majority considered “happy endings” cheating.

5:40 Minx goes through the actual comments on the site. and providing her feedback on these comments.

8:10 10 comments in and finally somebody brings up a more supportive comment.

10:20 Minx talks about how great strip clubs are!

10:50 Minx asks the questions, how would this woman feel if the husband wanted to do this regularly?

12:30 What if you aren’t the only thing your husband needs?

14:30 It is important that everybody has the same definitions for terms (e.g. cheating).

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly #171: But cheating is in my genes!

This week’s Poly Weekly #171: But cheating is in my genes!, a discussion of the release of the Swedish study on RS3 334, stupidly dubbed “the cheating gene” by mainstream media.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

2:00 Announcements
New York’s Poly Pride Day, October 3-4

2:30 Dragon*Con Rehash

8:45 Topic: Monogamy gene found in study
Monogamy/cheating gene article

23:00 Book Club: If the Buddha Dated
If the Buddha Dated spawned heated discussion this week

23:30 Miss Poly Manners: PDA in public

29:00 Humor: Poly Definitions
Courtesy of listener John

30:15 Feedback

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #148: Is monogamy “natural”?

The new Polyamory Weekly #148: Is monogamy “natural”? is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #148

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:40 Announcements

5:05 Is monogamy “natural” for humans?
Based on the last few sentences of the Sun-Times article, Minx talks about the question of whether monogamy is “natural” for humans. Minx clarifies that social monogamy is natural for humans–we form pair bonds naturally and participate in extra-pair couplings on the side

17:50 Anniversary announcement
A loving anniversary announcement from one listener to another–CONGRATULATIONS!

19:05 Listener feedback
Nobilis calls in about poly rules mentioned in Mistress Matisse’s latest podcast; he is monogamous but permitted to form long-term intimate friendships and to dance with other women as long as he dances with the tallest person in the room first
24:00 For those with a Blackberry Pearl, the call-in number is: 206-202-7659

26:10 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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