Poly Weekly #177: Poly and Proud, Part Deux

This week Poly Weekly #177:Poly and Proud, Part Deux.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

We will have a feedback show coming up soon and then go back to our format of feedback in each episode.

1:45 More interviews from NYC Poly Pride!

1:50 Interview with Birgitte Phillipedes
President of Polyamory NYC and goddess of the event; mainstreaming poly and PolyNYC; nature of poly and lack of structure and organization; potential of the Poly Leadership Summit–should there be a national group?; future of the poly movement; next year–a leadership retreat; favorite act? Heada!; how can we help? Donate!

14:00 Interview: Pete Benson
Author of the Polyamory Handbook; book structure; what he learned from writing the book

19:45 Interview: Marcia and Ried, founders of Cuddle Party
how they started, how Cuddle Parties have grown, how they work

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

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Wonder what a Cuddle Party really is?

Check out this video from the New York Post about the Friday night Cuddle Party from New York Poly Pride (yes, I make a brief appearance, but only brief)

Poly Weekly #176: Poly and Proud

This week Poly Weekly #176: Minx takes us to Poly Pride NYC!.
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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Host chat: Poly NYC; Friday night’s Cuddle Party; hot three-way kisses at the after party; 9:00 Nikol from the Midwest Teen Sex Show moved to new york and had brunch; book reading at Blue Stockings bookstore; meeting Barbara Foster; the national poly leadership summit; if you would like to participate go to the poly NYC website and click on “contact us”

13:55 Interview: Justin
Founder of Poly NYC; cuddle parties; his own background and how he got started; some steps to organizing.

20:05 Interview: Alan from polyamory in the news!
the Polyamory Leadership meeting; when and why he started the Polyamory in the News blog; challenges in running it

28:10 Interview: Anita Wagner
Anita tells us about her talk “The Mainstreaming of Polyamory”; the good press that has been out there on polyamory lately; this current polymory movement to the free love movment of the 60′s; the choice of monogamy versus polyamory.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

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Photos from New York Poly Pride

Photos from New York Poly Pride are up on my Flickr account–enjoy!

New York Poly Pride: Day 3

A little belated posting: Sunday in New York

Drug myself outta bed for brunch with Nikol Hasler and J. Apparently, I passed Parker Posey on the way and didn’t notice. Does that count as a celebrity un-sighting?

Fantastic brunch with the funniest girl alive. Got to hear the tale of the transplant to NYC and all the fabulous opportunities the Midwest Teen Sex Show has these days. Personally, I can’t wait to see the movie! Listen up, Hollywood: we want the MTSS movie NOW! She and J spent the brunch singing songs to each other and generally being wildly entertaining. I heart my friends.

Then, it was off to the book reading and signing at Blue Stockings:
Blue Stockings

Jenny Block reading from Open; Tristan Taormino reading from Opening Up; Barbara Foster reading from her history of the threesome; Serena Anderlini d’Onofrio reading from Eros. The place was PACKED!


Jenny Block reading from Open


Tristan Taormino

And guess who came? The bestest, cutest eroticist in New York, Rachel Kramer Bussel! Got a quick hug from her before heading off to the first ever National Poly Leadership Summit, then straight to the airport to go home.


Rachel Kramer Bussel

Special thanks to for picking me up from the Blue Line stop and saving me the last 45 minute bus ride home. You are full of awesome. (And we need to get naked soon, dear.)

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New York Poly Pride: Saturday evening

And then, the PARTY! Great view of the river from the spacious balcony; hot acts inside!

  • Voguing drag queens, light-up hula-hoopers, burlesque strippers and more!
  • I spent an hour speaking French with three native French polys, discovering that the poly scene in France is nonexistent; there’s not even a word for it! Dommage.
  • Watched Simon and Reid make out–thanks, boys; YUM!
  • Got in the midst of a three-way kiss with said boys. Girls, I highly recommend two tongues in your mouth at once!
  • Cuddled on the pallets on top of three cute bi/straight boys. Heaven!
  • Made out with the adorable Trace, a charming gay boy two weeks away from his wedding day. (MWAH you’re so cute–call me!)
  • Danced a swing dance with a closet Republican
  • Spilled red wine all over my pretty dress, silk pashmina and hose and spent the rest of the evening wet and cold. Ick!
  • Talked with Simon until I had to pull myself away at 3:00 a.m. Dude, I’ll come back–we still need to break out that champagne!

    Photos and videos are posted on the Facebook event; full photos from the weekend are on my Flickr.

    Thanks again to Simon for being the host with the most. I didn’t even mind the six floor walkup; that way, I didn’t have to worry about not working out for three days!

New York Poly Pride, Day 2

The day dawned a bit dreary and drippy, not the sunlight I’d been hoping for. But I drug myself out of my lovely host’s bed–he’s the best host EVER, not only because he’s a cute bi boy who obligingly kissed other cute bi boys for my titillation, but also because he provided me with an adorable cat to sleep with! Yes, cat. Two live with him now, and the runty black one, Lucy, curled up in the crook of my legs last night! Awwwww!

Google Maps told me the rally site was four miles away, directly up Central Park West, so I wandered over to the nearest main street, found a bus stop, checked the route and schedule and determined I had just enough time to grab a decaf latte at the Starbucks. On the bulletin board:

The second bus was equally easy and dropped me off right on 106th street, and I found the rally site, no problem. And what a rally it was! I’ve never attended a poly pride event, and it was inspiring! Everyone was there; Birgitte with her two adorable pups, Trace with his cute puppy Keno, the adorable Jenny Block–oh, hell; I can’t name all the names. It would be silly. Everyone who is anyone in poly was there. For me, it was a real treat to finally meet in person Alan, the Poly in the News guy (wow; he’s really tall!), Anita Wagner, Robyn Trask of Loving More and Serena Anderlini d’Onofrio, all folks I’ve talked with on the phone/via Skype/electronically over the past few years but never met in person!

I think there is real value to events like this. Participating in Poly Pride made me realize just how isolated our communities are–when I started chatting with folks and hearing stories, it seemed that every community, from Portland to Chicago to New York, had a different vibe.

And none of them know about or communicate with the others. When people asked me about the poly scene in Chicago, they were surprised to hear how differently it is structured compared to New York. Or Oregon. Or Berkeley. In a way, the poly movement reminds me kind of like the first year of my own poly relationship–intelligent, energized, great intentions, but without the support of a strong network of informed, experienced polys, it was fraught with unnecessary difficulties.

The New York scene is crazy organized. There is a leadership committee of 13 people, each with a specific role and willing to commit hours every week to outreach and organization. More than just one or two people trying to make a difference (although that is certainly where Poly NYC began), this is a well-oiled machine with many devotees spending many hours working together to produce popular, inclusive events.


Birgitte Phillippedes, President of Poly-NYC

And the scene is highly tied in to the GLBT community and frequently meets at the local GLBT center. In fact, many of the plethora of acts from Poly Pride were GLBT oriented–from gay club singer Houston Bernard to the Pixie Harlots to the three gay Jews to Hedda Lettuce, the fabulous green-bewigged MC, the acceptance of diversity of sexuality, orientation and spirituality was obvious.

But I digress. The rally itself was amazing! I spent most of the day running around, trying to grab speakers for audio interviews. And there are some fantastic ones coming up–the stunning goddess Birgitte Phillippedes herself; Justen, the founder of Poly NYC; Anita Wagner; Alan from Poly in the Media (speaking of his activism, not giving news reports!); Pete Benson (The Polyamory Handbook); and Reid and Marcia, relationship coaches and founders of Cuddle Parties.

I think my favorite acts were the three Jewish poly gay boys singing a capella; how adorable!

Singing, dancing, hula hoops, a big earth ball, dogs barking, frisbee, cuddle piles, great speeches–too much to say; too much to catalogue. I took a ton of photos and video, too, so check my Flickr for photos of the fun.

One last thing, though–Tristan Taormino’s keynote kicked fuckin’ ASS! Inspiring, charging, challenging–she’s seen the gay movement organize and demand recognition, and she challenged the poly movement to do the same. And seeing what Poly NYC has done, I believe we can get there!

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