3:00 Topic: Poly dating on OKCupid
- Nifty new Chrome plug-in for polys dating on OKCupid
- Available is still a status; it appears automatically if you list yourself as Married or In a Relationship and looking for partners, romance or sex.
Q wrote in to ask if it was unrealistic to hope for a polifidelitous triad with two bisexual guys and to seek that on OKCupid.
- It’s great to have an idea of what you want, but it shouldn’t impair your openness to great folks who might not fit into that exact box.
- Remember that what’s most important in love and emotional intimacy is how you respond to the person and whether he meets your emotional needs, stated or unstated.
- Rather than imagining what a future mate will look like, think instead about how you want to feel in a relationship. Do you want to feel like a valued partner, an adored princess, a wise leader, a sex toy, a best friend?
R asks for advice about her poly situation. What do you do when your play partner takes on a new, young partner (your new metamour) who is prone to jealous fits and tantrums whenever you have a play date with him? My advice:
- You can choose to leave.
- You can open up communications with her (the new metamour) in a friendly, non-confrontational manner.
- You can bring it up with him—as the point of the vee, keeping the communication going between you and the new metamour is technically his responsibility.
27:45 Wrap up
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