This week’s Poly Weekly #169: Quit hurting my partner! is all about how to deal with getting angry that your partner is hurt emotionally by your metamour.
0:00 Introduction and host chat
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2:50 Topic for the day. “What do you do if your metamour is hurting your partner”
5:50 this topic was brought up by Maverick when he called in with his comments. He commented that his rage became “all consuming” if his partner is being hurt. This caused Minx some disturbance and she suggested a therapist. However, wow on the responses to this advice.
6:45 Maverick calls in and apologizes about his comments and says he is not somebody to raise his hand in anger and thanks Minx for her comments.
10:07 a caller called in to talk about this subject. He felt Minx missed the point of the call and noted that he also has felt a “reverse-frubble” when something bad is happening to his partner/partners/metamours
12:10 Mike called in and was a bit offended. He felt Minx invalidated Maverick’s feelings out of her own fear.
14:30 Minx brings up that when you are comforting your partner resist the urge to say “that <blank> was always an asshole>
15:50 Sam wrote in and felt that Maverick took a risk to expose his anger and feelings and was a bit offended by Minx’s response.
18:20 Minx discusses more ways of dealing with this “anti-frubble” feeling.
19:50 The next part of the show is feedback on episode #166
19:57 Muskrat calls in about episode 166 and points out tha everybody should be aware of the possible discomfort in others. He also mentions PDA also depends on settings.
24:40 Minx brings up some really good points on this especially from the perpsective of the new person/secondary.
26:14 Wolfpeach wrote in and loved the rant about the word “OK.”
28:24 Rob from Australia called in and suggested using “chapter marks” in the podcast. Unfortunately, that requires saving the file in a format that is not supported by anything but Mac.
- Poly Weekly Dragon*Con Meetup is Gordon Biersch Brewpub, Sunday Aug 31, 11:30 a.m.
- Minx will be speaking at Dragon*Con on building community through podcasting/social media on Friday at 7:00 p.m. and on the Sex/Adult blogger/podcaster panel Saturday at 10:00 p.m.
Topic: Quit hurting my partner
A redux of Maverick’s question from Poly Weekly 166, how do you deal with getting really angry when your partner is hurt emotionally by her metamour?
Feedback: PW 166, dealing with PDA by metamours
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