How do you know where you stand with a new poly partner?
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1:00 Host chat
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3:15 Poly in the News
- Alan’s comments on building a poly movement, part of his speech from the Rocky Mountain Poly Living conference
- Portland Monthly published a great how-to article on polyamory
13:10 Topic: How do I know where I stand?
Confused in California writes in to ask how to figure out where she stands with a new poly partner who began by lying to her about being single and who won’t give advance notice for infrequent dates. How does she know how much of a partner she actually is to him?
Minx recommends reading the Relationship Bill of Rights, which is a standard for EVERY relationship, not just poly ones. In particular, you have the right to be told the truth, to choose the level of involvement that YOU want (not what he/they are willing to offer), to feel and communicate your needs and to seek balance in what you give to the relationship and to what the relationship gives back to you.
- Viro from the furry relationship advice podcast Feral Attraction writes in to comment on episode 47, saying it is sometimes OK to talk to one partner about another
- Heather writes in to share how poly has improved her sex dreams
- Dee calls in with a new poly relationship term: “comet.” This is someone who passes through your life repeatedly who is intense and awesome and when gone you were still in contact with that person in some way, but they’re not a continuous partner. Love the idea!
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31:00 Wrap up
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