By Cunning Minx, on May 14th, 2013%
What are the best apps for poly folks?
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1:00 Announcements
10:50 Topic: There’s an App for That
- Suggested poly apps from listeners: Google Calendar, OK Cupid, Facebook, SnapChat, Words with Friends, Skype, Zello, a long-range walkie-talkie app; What’s App, a way to consolidate chats with friends and lovers with no SMS charges or logging into various platforms
- Apps I found in the iTunes app store: My marriage coach; Sex Tracker; Couple
- What we want to develop: a positive feedback relationship app to give points to your loved ones when they are awesome. Talented developers interested in helping out contact LustyGuy on FetLife.
23:30 Happy Poly Moment
Paul shares a moment of recognizing an opportunity to pamper his Mistress.
25:15 Feedback
Marshe wrote in to explain Culture Warrior is an evangelical term referring to Christians who feel the U.S. mainstream culture is too secular and should be battled against.
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email?  Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on May 5th, 2013%
 How much sex is “normal” in a committed relationship?
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2:00 Announcements
5:00 Topic: How often do normal people have sex?
24:00 Our advice for good sex:
- Talk about what you want and what you need; know the difference.
- Be willing to hear “no” and/or negotiate a counter offer.
- Be open to your partner’s/partners’ wants, needs and fantasies. Don’t shut the door before educating yourself.
- Get educated. Treat sex like any other physical skill.
- Consider your sexual health a lifelong endeavor and never complete.
33:00 Feedback
Jordy shares her concerns that couples are being bashed in our attempts to create awareness of couple privilege. Note: Minx accidentally referred to Jordy as “he.” And damn LustyGuy for letting me do it! Sorry, Jordy! You’re pretty.
37:00 Thank you
Thanks to Eric and Benjamin for their donations this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on April 26th, 2013%
 Where do we sit on the media hype cycle for polyamory?
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1:00 Topic: Where are we on the poly hype cycle?
The fabulous Sierra Black wrote a response to Andrea Zanin’s polynormativity post and pondered how to be more inclusive in our media representations. Minx suggests that polyamory is in the rising phase of the hype cycle and suffering from inflated expectations.
Other links: Jenny Block’s book Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage
Pedestrian Polyamory podcast
19:25 Happy Poly Moment
S shares a moment that is not especially happy but when polyamory’s benefits and love shine.
22:00 Thank you
Thanks to Michael for his donations this week! Plus, app subscribers and Poly Weekly Playmates got a little something extra last week. Thank you for supporting PW!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on April 21st, 2013%
The study, finally! How much does penis size matter?
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1:00 Topic: Does penis size matter?
An Australian researcher finally did a study matching the relevance of penis size as a factor in combination with other physical factors for physical attractiveness. Does it matter?
Other headlines citing the study:
11:40 Happy Poly Moment
E shares a great story of transition of a partner moving from “hell no” to “this is cool”
13:10 Feedback
- Lynn shares feedback on the HSV episode that made it much easier to avoid the shame spiral.
- ArcticWolf shares thoughts on the stats on the poly marriage failure rate
Thank you
Thanks to Joseph, Andrew, Meg and Emma for their donations this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on April 8th, 2013%
 When a poly family swaps wives with a right-wing family on a reality TV show, who comes off better?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
2:00 Topic: Polyamory on Wife Swap
On the reality TV show Wife Swamp, a polyamorous family swapped wives (not sexual, just lifestyle) with a right-wing religious family. Who came off better? Across the board, reviewers agree it was the poly family!
31:50 Happy Poly Moment
Dominic from Wisconsin calls in to share a moment in which life rewards courage!
35:00 Feedback: Episode 350
- AggieSez calls in to let us know about unmarried equality
- Frank writes in to ask why there are any tax benefits at all to marriage
- Jason comments that we should have marriage be defined by the individuals involved, not the government
- S shares her situation in which she lives with partners and then married one, which brought up conflicting emotions regarding the other relationship. No answers, but she poses some great questions.
- Edward reminds us about marriage in the Roman Empire.
46:00 Thank you
Thanks to Marshall, Isabelle, Denise and Kerra for their donations this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on March 15th, 2013%
Is there a polynormative model in the media? And if so, what issues can that create for poly newbies? 
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- Had a great time at Conflation; thanks to everyone for making us feel relaxed and welcome!
- Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
- Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!
Interview: Andrea Zanin on polynormativity
Andrea’s longish essay on the problem with polynormativity is here. You can find Andrea’s essays on her Sex Geek blog.
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on February 28th, 2013%
 Is legalization of poly marriage worth the battle?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- I will be hosting a poly panel and helping to emcee at Conflation in Saint Louis February 22-24
- Also a Write Your Own User Manual session followed by a meet and greet at Shameless Grounds coffee shop on Sunday, February 24th at 7:00 PM. Come join us! Calendar info
- Hidden Social: Where Sexual Variants Gather Online session at SXSWi on Sunday, March 10, 3:30 PM with Herb Coleman, Adjunct Professor of Psychology at UT Austin ( #hiddensoc )
- Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
- Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!
6:00 Topic: should we fight for legalization of poly marriage?
Mistress Matisse’s article on the legalization of poly marriage debate: You May Now Kiss the Bride and the Other Bride and the Other Bride and the Other Groom: Why Poly Marriage Is Never Going to Happen
What are your thoughts on fighting to legalize poly marriage? Do you care? Would you fight for it for the next 20 years like the gays did?
17:50 Happy Poly Moment
Vicki shares a fun snogging-oriented happy poly moment
19:45 Feedback
- CL wrote in to quote a study on how long it actually takes to create a habit. Turns out, it’s not the oft-quoted 21 days, but anywhere from 21 to 84 days, depending on the habit. Source: Author: Jeremy Dean; Title: Making Habits, Breaking Habits; Publisher: Da Capo Press; Date: Copyright 2013 by Jeremy Dean; Pages: 3-7
- Space Hippie Geek wrote in to respond to episode 300 on couple privilege and took issue with three points:
- conflating a triad and a vee (in a vee there is no romantic relationship between two of the partners)
- pointing out (quite rightly) that, “don’t only want to feel as if I’m being added onto an established family. I also want to feel that my boyfriend is joining my family. Even if I don’t have another partners, and am not close to my birth family. Even just by myself, I am a family, a household. I have my own traditions, customs, and ways of doing things.”
- While there are benefits to having everyone talk together, communicating as a group isn’t always necessary.
- Mitch advocates for my voice not being used for the proliferation of toxic sludge
29:45 Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on February 26th, 2013%
 Tales of mono-poly ins and outs with Mollena Williams
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Note: we are still experiencing technical difficulties with posting episode 350. That file will post as soon as the issues are discerned and corrected. In the meantime, enjoy Mo!
1:00 Announcements and host chat
- Hidden Social: Where Sexual Variants Gather Online session at SXSWi on Sunday, March 10, 3:30 PM with Herb Coleman, Adjunct Professor of Psychology at UT Austin ( #hiddensoc )
- Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
- Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!
3:30 Interview: Mollena Williams on her mono-poly relationship
What worked—and didn’t—in Mollena’s last mono-poly D/s relationship. Lessons learned and insights from the trenches. Find her site at Mollena or as Mollena on FetLife and Facebook.
35:00 Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on February 16th, 2013%
 Considering polyamory? Kathy Labriola shares three basic poly relationship models
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
12:20 Interview: Kathy Labriola on poly relationship models
Kathy Labriola, counselor, nurse and author of Love in Abundance: a Counselor’s Advice on Open Relationships, shares her insights on different relationship models for polyamory.
40:20 Happy Poly Moment
M shares an OK Cupid happy poly moment
41:30 Feedback
Jane shares her insights on herpes: the poison ivy of the relationship world. Just a minor inconvenience, not the scarring STI it’s made out to be.
45:20 Thank you
Thanks to Kathleen for her donation and welcome I to the Poly Weekly Playmates!
46:00 Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on January 24th, 2013%
 What do you do when a partner’s jealousy destroys a relationship you have with someone else?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
9:10 Topic: How to deal with a partner’s jealousy
L asks for advice on breaking up with someone who isn’t your primary, but Minx sees that her partner’s jealousy is the real issue and gives advice based on Franklin Veaux‘s How to Be a Secure Person:
- Letting jealousy destroy a relationship is a bad precedent. Deal with this jealousy now so you can go forth and date from a place of generosity, kindness and confidence.
- Look beneath the surface to determine what is driving your jealousy and insecurities
- Fill in these blanks: “If my lover [kisses another person in front of me], then the bad thing that will happen is ______.” “If this keeps happening, then it means ________.” “If my lover really loves this other person, then ______.”
- Practice, practice, practice! Practice being secure and coping with jealousy. It takes 21 days to create a habit, so don’t expect to dispel jealousy the first time out.
- And please, don’t date until you and your partner are both secure. It’s not fair to your new lover, who is making an emotional, psychological and maybe even sexual investment in you to be dumped due to someone else’s jealousy.
22:05 Happy Poly Moment
Brandon shares a moment of his wife and girlfriend getting along great!
23:15 Feedback: Episode 345 Poly for the Holidays
Vir writes in to remark on Sierra Black’s Huffington Post piece on making a decision about honoring her mother’s holiday wishes.
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
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