By Cunning Minx, on November 7th, 2011%
 The HSV blues–herpes myths busted and HSV stigma eliminated
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Introduction
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1:00 Host chat
- The GaggleAmp experiment
- Great having dinner with Kurt, our book reviewer!
2:40 Topic: The HSV blues
MakeUpandSin, 23, wrote in to ask for advice when she discovered she had herpes after she and her boyfriend brought a new girl into their relationship. Feeling unsexy, she blames herself and insists possible exposure is all her fault. Host Joreth asks why is it stigmatized more than a cold; the blame and guilt are disproportionate to the actual disease and mode of transmission.
- Herpes is likely not due to promiscuity, has nothing to do with sexual past. Keep in mind that most children get it from their parents touching them, so get away from the blame game. Take positive steps: educate yourself on the medical details on the strain, placement, medications; arm yourself with information rather than guilt; gather questions and talk to your doctor.
- When bringing up the issue with partners, Puck suggests going in confident and informed without a sense of shame or guilt; many people don’t even realize they have it because it’s a non-event. Joreth compares to some who get a cold and it’s nothing while others get totally wiped out. And keep in mind it’s also possible to be HSV positive and have partners who aren’t and keep that status; current tests aren’t effective and some who are known positives can sometimes test negative depending on the test.
- HSV1 versus HSV2 and why the distinction doesn’t matter; location-based diagnosis; skanky STI films and the dangers of doing medical research online
- Final advice – remember this is just a harmless virus and not a punishment for bad behavior; it’s just part of being alive, like getting a cold every year.
21:30 Feedback
- Sean asked about episode 291 Yes Means Yes and why some people don’t use safewords. The short answer is (a) they are just arrogant pricks or (b) they prefer clear and specific communication (my right foot is asleep) to a black and white safeword.
- 26:08 Pablo writes in to share the beauty of three.
28:45 Thanks
Thanks to Nathaniel, Emily, Blake and three-digit hero Iske for contributions this week that will go toward MomentumCon travel!
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on October 18th, 2011%
 Going a step further for negotiating consent: yes means yes
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Introduction
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1:00 Announcements
- The Geeky Kink Event is November 4-6 in New Jersey, including D&D gaming and TARDIS bondage boxes in the play space!
2:20 Yes means yes
A look at a new campaign that takes “no means no” to a more proactive level: yes means yes. Cohosts:
Franklin Veaux
Joreth
Puck
Active Consent
Yes means yes blog
The contemps.com on yes means yes
Slutwalk London on yes means yes
CafePress
25:10
“Dinner Party” erotica minigasms. Like it and want more? Support the Minigasm project here!
30:45 Feedback
- 30 year old male asks how to get past the self-doubt and criticism when exploring polyamory for the first time
- Amanda asks how poly family’s kids can be taken away
- Dave, a monogamous listener, says thanks!
42:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on October 3rd, 2011%
 The Sister Wives lawsuit and how it affects polyamorists Alan from Poly in the Media covers the crux of the Sister Wives lawsuit–and why polyamorists should care
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1:00 Announcements
2:25 Suing with the Sister Wives
Alan from Poly in Media shares the details of the Sister Wives lawsuit and point out that this is as close to a lawsuit for the right to privacy within a poly relationship as we will ever find in the mainstream media.
- Kodi Brown and his four wives’ family structure; only Kodi and Meri are legally married; the rest live together and call each other “sister wives” but are not legally married
- The difference from other poly court cases that some poly groups have been leery of aligning with
- The constitutional right/issue being questioned here–NOT the right to marry but the right to cohabitate lovingly in peace.
- The reaction within the poly leadership community
- What are the benefits of poly leaders aligning with and supporting this case? What are the drawbacks?
- What is happening with the case right now
Links: Sister Wives challenge anti-polygamy law
Poly Events
21:00 Book Review: Resident Aliens
Book review by Kurt on the Joe Ashby Porter novel. Not a book to run out and buy, but a book with poly characters.
24:45 Feedback
- Matt from Detroit rants on marriage, what it really means and adding preachers and legislation into marriage.
- Lissie in Cleveland asks for more information on the kinky bed and breakfast in Michigan
- Jeannie in Vermont comments on Sister Wives and asks why polys wouldn’t promote polygamous pride in Utah—she would.
47:20 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on September 20th, 2011%
 Photo courtesy of BMIR.org Joe Zarate-Sanderlin shares his thoughts on how the 10 Principles of Burning Man really apply to polyamory
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Introduction
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1:45 Announcements
5:00 Topic: 10 Principles of Burning Man, applied to polyamory
Guest cohost Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, a therapist, shares his thoughts with Minx at Burning Man and BMIR on how the 10 principles of Burning Man apply to poly
- Radical inclusion
- Gifting
- Decommodification
- Radical self-reliance
- Radical self-expression
- Communal effort
- Civic responsibility
- Leaving no trace
- Participation
- Immediacy
39:05 Feedback
- Kudos for Poly Weekly for assuaging loneliness and isolation that come when first exploring polyamory.
- Avery responds to “why get married” with a cost-benefit analysis prompted by a military situation.
47:50 Thanks
Thanks to Janke for the generous donation this week!
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on August 15th, 2011%
 Building a poly community – thoughts from Polycamp Vancouver Island
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3:30 Topic: Live from the Pillow Palace
Live from the Pillow Palace at PolyCamp Vancouver Island, a nine-day camping event within a caring and giving community. Pierce, Quentin, Cora, Kiki and Scott talk about sex education vegetables, Kiki’s new head shaving and the birth of the poly community in Vancouver.
25:45 Feedback
Anne brings up and defines the “Joey Potter effect.” The Joey Potter = a person trying to live monogamously while romantically attracted to more than one person. The JPE involves frequent breakups with one love interest to date another, relationship sabotage and overanalysis of one’s own motivations.
28:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on July 4th, 2011%
 Raven Kaldera talks about polyamory in a power dynamice–and targets common misakes
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1:40 Interview: Raven Kaldera on Polyamory and BDSM
Raven Kaldera, author of Polyamory and Power Circuits, shares some wisdom on polyamory in the world of BDSM and power dynamics.
- Why do we need a poly book exclusively about power dynamics and D/s?
- Why we should not take lessons from porn
- The power of months of negotiation
- Common myth: the BBM (Big Bad Master) has to make all the relationship decisions and simply instruct his slaves how to behave
- Best advice: force your slaves to talk to each other to deal with conflict
- Jealousy with owned slave versus part-time sub
- Dealing with egalitarian partners; addressing Shiny New Lover syndrome with a current/egalitarian partner
32:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on May 23rd, 2011%
 Listener W writes in to ask: am I jealous, or is this situation unfair?
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Introduction and host chat
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1:20 Topic: Am I jealous?
Wendy writes in to ask advice from the cohost team: am I jealous? She gets a certain number of hours a week with her top, and compares that to the number of hours his wife enjoys with him. She relays anecdotes of her top engaging in sex with another bottom, which was beyond the scope of their agreement, and with his wife, which was beyond her expectations. She relays a situation in which she watched the children for his and his wife’s anniversary trip, but her own collaring anniversary went unnoticed.
Is she jealous and how should she cope? Cohosts Joreth, Pepper and Franklin share insights and give advice, including making a list of the things she needs to feel secure in a relationship and how she would like for commitment to be shown.
20:40 Announcements
Poly in Pictures blog on jealousy – for a little jealousy humor
21:40 Feedback
- Musqrat comments on the Sister Wives commentary from episode 266, comparing to a sort of institutionalized D/s situation
- A caller who believes in religious polygyny makes a call for tolerance
- DDog calls in to appreciate the term “anchors” from episode 260
35:40 Thanks to Earl and John for their donations
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on May 2nd, 2011%
 The secondary blues From listener Amy: how do you deal with being a secondary when you long for primary benefits?
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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Announcements
 Girl with the Dragon Tattoo Book review: Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
- Kurt reviews poly themes and relationships in the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo series
Advice from the crew: what if you’re secondary but don’t want to be?
What if you long to be a live-in primary, but metamours or partners are putting on the brakes? Cohosts Franklin Veaux, Joreth and Pepper give advice to listener Amy.
Thank you
Frances, Paul and Tofa for donations! You rock my world and help cover bandwidth and travel expenses.
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email?  Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on April 12th, 2011%
 Elisabeth Sheff, GSU Dept of Sociology Latest research on poly families with groundbreaking sociologist Elisabeth Sheff
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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Announcements
- Back from MomentumCon in D.C. Great to meet…
- Seeking pregnant poly women for cable documentary: IPA2Casting@sirensmedia.com – Call Poly Media Association before you go!
- Casting company seeking “those who feel comfortable sharing personal and sexual details of their relationship lives—including their fears, secrets, unmet needs, and the ways in which they connect & disconnect in relationships.” Send name, age, occupation, brief bio, relationship goals, contact information to relationshipcasting2011@gmail.com (and call the Poly Media Association first!)
Interview: Elisabeth Sheff, sociologist
Elisabeth Sheff talks about her groundbreaking research at Atlanta Poly Weekend with sociology of poly families. And she needs help! If you have children in a poly environment to be interviewed for her study, please contact her via email at esheff@gsu.edu or her site or call her at 404-413-6522.
You can also help with an internet survey supported by CARAS—link to come.
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on March 26th, 2011%
So excited to debut my new talk on personal branding on the social web for the sex-positive educator, activist and organizer!
Thanks again to the Atlanta Poly Weekend staff for bringing me out; it’s been a wonderful experience!
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