PW 285: Advice for poly newbies

What does a poly newbie need to know?

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Introduction

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

2:00 Announcements

The forums will be shut down for a few weeks while we figure out a better way to give our moderators a rest from dealing with daily spam. Like the forums? Let us know! Don’t care? Um… still let us know!

4:30 Topic: Advice for Poly Newbies

Minx and Anita Wagner give advice for those new to polyamory. Recorded at Polycamp Northwest, a fantastic event near Seattle with 20% poly content and the rest is community-driven.

  • Meet poly people in the community and ask for advice
  • Read The Ethical Slut and Opening Up
  • Create a safe space to discuss and process reactions and emotions
  • Have a strong desire for self-knowledge
  • Avoid the “kid in the candy store” mentality when you first try poly
  • No major life decisions during NRE
  • More focus on communication, less on hard and fast rules

31:30 Comments on inviting Minx or Anita to speak

34:45 Feedback

Feedback on episode 281 on the Dan Savage article “Infidelity will keep us together.”

Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

PW 283: Building a poly community

Building a poly community – thoughts from Polycamp Vancouver Island

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Introduction

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

3:30 Topic: Live from the Pillow Palace

Live from the Pillow Palace at PolyCamp Vancouver Island, a nine-day camping event within a caring and giving community. Pierce, Quentin, Cora, Kiki and Scott talk about sex education vegetables, Kiki’s new head shaving and the birth of the poly community in Vancouver.

25:45 Feedback

Anne brings up and defines the “Joey Potter effect.” The Joey Potter = a person trying to live monogamously while romantically attracted to more than one person. The JPE involves frequent breakups with one love interest to date another, relationship sabotage and overanalysis of one’s own motivations.

28:00 Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

PW 282: Naked in Vancouver

Journal of Polycamp Vancouver Island

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Introduction

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

2:00 Announcements

  • Headed to Burning Man? Visit Poly Asylum, home of poly-friendly parties and a host of poly relationship sessions and advice.
  • Suspended Animation – a must-visit camp for bondage suspension at the burn
  • Thanks again to Joseph for the tickets to the burn! And for setting me up for a slot at BMIR radio on Thursday at 4:00 PM

4:30 Miss Poly Manners: Milestones

Advice on acknowledging relationship milestones within a poly setting. Recommended reading: The Five Love Languages and The Five Love Languages for Singles by Dr. Gary Chapman.

10:00 Topic: Naked at PolyCamp Vancouver Island

Audio journals live from PolyCamp Vancouver Island, a nine-day camping event within a caring and giving community. Thanks to Kiki and Zoe for giving me the chance to experience this!

24:00 Feedback

Paul asks about managing mono-poly relationships.

27:00 Thanks

Thanks to Niko for the generous donation!

Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Win a PolyCamp Too weekend!

How long has it been since Poly Weekly has given away a prize? Forever!

Now, thanks to the generosity of MayMay and Emma, you can win a weekend for two at Polycamp Too in Nainaimo, B.C., Canada, July 9-12.

Theme of Weekend: The Polyamorist’s Tool Kit

Friday July 9 (check in anytime after 2:00pm) to Mon July 12 (check out 11:00 am)
Location: Living Forest RV & Campgrounds, Nanaimo, BC

There will be workshop sessions, children & youth activities, a house concert, and a Poetry Slam (author’s reading) this year! There are only 25 campsites available in our group camping area. There’s running water, electricity and WiFi. There is a group shelter area where most events will be held. It’s a great time every year – don’t miss out!!

Want to win a pair of tickets to this weekend, a $170 value? Just write a comment below saying why you think you should be the one to go. We’ll draw a winner from the entries on MONDAY JUNE 21, so be sure to post your winning comment by then!

Poly Weekly #189: Coming Out Poly

This week Poly Weekly #189: Coming out poly… in Milwaukee.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

10:07 Miss Poly Manners
Miss Eater writes in with a concern about which partner should sit where while at a restaurant; Miss Poly Manners suggest being near the one you see less, or switch it up, and many other great suggestions.

13:58 Coming out Poly party
Minx talks about the great turn out to the Coming Out Poly party; Ash and Lindsay talk about the purpose of the party and their reaction; Ash and Lindsay talk about what they want from the group; they talk about how somebody could start their own group.

21:43 Minx talks to Boone
Minx asks Boone about the awesomeness that is coming out poly

26:14 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Fred wrote in and told us about the passing of his cat and how the large network of metamours helped be supportive.

27:38 Nobilis called in thanking Minx for her thoughts on relationships and how they impacted his own thoughts; Chris wrote in with his appreciation of episode 186. Kevin wrote in with his own comments.

30:55 Jillian wrote in commenting on Anita Blake.

32:40 Frya called in thanking Minx for the show as she works through the past episodes.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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