PW 306: Polyamory vs polygamy

What are the differences between polyamory and polygamy?Polyamory vs polygamy dont be confused

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Introduction

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1:00 Announcements and Host chat

10:10 Topic: Polyamory vs Polygamy

First, there is a great rundown of polyamory, including an interview with several poly enclaves, in the Winnipeg Free Press. That article on polyamory vs polygamy: “Polyamoury, for the record, is quite distinct from polygamy, which, thanks to TV shows such as the fictional drama Big Love and the reality series Sister Wives, people tend to associate with fundamentalist Mormons who practise plural marriage… Polyamorous relationships are post-modern, secular, egalitarian and consensual.”

Next, check out this Slate article asking whether polygamy as it is traditionally practiced is good for society and does acknowledge “traditional polygamy is a pre-modern institution with religious and patriarchal roots.”

Minx’s take on the five primary differences between traditional polygamy and modern polyamory:

  1. Motive: Polyamory has no organized religion or government sanctioning it. Polyamory represents an alternative subculture, so it tends to be characterized by a thoughtful process of self-structuring rather than adopting a model prescribed by religion or the state.
  2. Power structure: Polyamory has less tendency toward patriarchy. The pioneers of the poly movement have primarily been women, and there is a generally-accepted undercurrent of egalitarianism (apart from D/s relationships). It’s not unusual for a woman to be the head of the household and the point of the romantic/sexual vee.
  3. Acceptance of diversity: More sexual orientations are welcome. Those practicing polyamory are more likely to welcome gay, bi, lesbian, queer and transgendered folks rather than condemn them. There is an acceptance of the value of diversity of sexual preferences and sexual needs.
  4. Full consent of all parties involved. Some may disagree, but I would argue that both religion and state sponsorship hinder full consent.
  5. Lots of communication and negotiation. Since polyamory is not a given and has no prescribed models, everything can and must be negotiated.

25:10 Feedback

  • John called in to encourage folks to do the work and take the time to become proficient at being poly, just as one would practice for hours to become a virtuoso in any field.
  • Andy from Michigan shared a gradual coming out story that has lead to his family slowly accepting his and his wife’s OSO.

31:45 Wrap up


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PW 289: The Sister Wives lawsuit–and why you should care

The Sister Wives lawsuit and how it affects polyamorists

Alan from Poly in the Media covers the crux of the Sister Wives lawsuit–and why polyamorists should care

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1:00 Announcements

2:25 Suing with the Sister Wives

Alan from Poly in Media shares the details of the Sister Wives lawsuit and point out that this is as close to a lawsuit for the right to privacy within a poly relationship as we will ever find in the mainstream media.

  • Kodi Brown and his four wives’ family structure; only Kodi and Meri are legally married; the rest live together and call each other “sister wives” but are not legally married
  • The difference from other poly court cases that some poly groups have been leery of aligning with
  • The constitutional right/issue being questioned here–NOT the right to marry but the right to cohabitate lovingly in peace.
  • The reaction within the poly leadership community
  • What are the benefits of poly leaders aligning with and supporting this case? What are the drawbacks?
  • What is happening with the case right now

Links: Sister Wives challenge anti-polygamy law

Poly Events

21:00 Book Review: Resident Aliens

Book review by Kurt on the Joe Ashby Porter novel. Not a book to run out and buy, but a book with poly characters.

24:45 Feedback

  • Matt from Detroit rants on marriage, what it really means and adding preachers and legislation into marriage.
  • Lissie in Cleveland asks for more information on the kinky bed and breakfast in Michigan
  • Jeannie in Vermont comments on Sister Wives and asks why polys wouldn’t promote polygamous pride in Utah—she would.

47:20 Wrap-up

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Poly Weekly 266: Poly on “Reality” TV

How real are portrayals of polyamory and polygamy on reality television?

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  • Atlanta Poly Weekend, March 25-27, Atlanta
  • MomentumCon, April 1-3, Washington, D.C. My sessions: Podcasting: Marketing, Mojo and Monetization; Personal Branding for the Sex-Positive Activist
  • Had a great time at the Vancouver GRUE!

Poly on “Reality” TV

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Poly Weekly #216: Is polygamy feminist?

This week’s Poly Weekly #216: Is polygamy feminist?.

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[Rough show notes; full show notes to come]

Announcements
Loving More conference February 19-21, 2010, Fort Washington, PA
New Poly Orlando group
Poly Art Project–what does poly mean to you?

News
Obama appoints pro-poly woman to EEOC
“Yes, you are” essay

Topic: Is polygamy feminist?
Is polygamy feminist

Feedback
Polymorphous perversity

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