New York Poly Pride: Day 3

A little belated posting: Sunday in New York

Drug myself outta bed for brunch with Nikol Hasler and J. Apparently, I passed Parker Posey on the way and didn’t notice. Does that count as a celebrity un-sighting?

Fantastic brunch with the funniest girl alive. Got to hear the tale of the transplant to NYC and all the fabulous opportunities the Midwest Teen Sex Show has these days. Personally, I can’t wait to see the movie! Listen up, Hollywood: we want the MTSS movie NOW! She and J spent the brunch singing songs to each other and generally being wildly entertaining. I heart my friends.

Then, it was off to the book reading and signing at Blue Stockings:
Blue Stockings

Jenny Block reading from Open; Tristan Taormino reading from Opening Up; Barbara Foster reading from her history of the threesome; Serena Anderlini d’Onofrio reading from Eros. The place was PACKED!

Jenny Block reading from Open

Tristan Taormino

And guess who came? The bestest, cutest eroticist in New York, Rachel Kramer Bussel! Got a quick hug from her before heading off to the first ever National Poly Leadership Summit, then straight to the airport to go home.

Rachel Kramer Bussel

Special thanks to for picking me up from the Blue Line stop and saving me the last 45 minute bus ride home. You are full of awesome. (And we need to get naked soon, dear.)

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Poly Weekly #152: Trans Like Me!

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at

1:00 Host Chat
A Cunning Minx freshly back from Sex 2.0 relishes the memories of the conference! Rachel Kramer Bussel, eroticist and cupcake whore, was a delight; Regina Lynn from Wired; Audacia Ray, vixen extraordinaire and Melissa Gira made it amazing!

My first session was on sacred sexuality; Elizabeth Wood’s session on creating a sex-positive commons online was a great discussion; my own seminar on “Poly Pervs Like Me: Where Are They Hiding?” was packed full; Regina Lynn’s session on the history of cybersex was hysterical and enlightening; the last session of the day was Viviane of Viviane’s Sex Carnival with tons of great online tools

Plus, I learned that I’m too old to be a pole dancer!

8:00 Interview: Trans Like Me: Benny
Joanie had asked about transitioning from being a woman’s husband to being her wife and wanted to know about being poly and transgendered
9:30 Introduction: Benny is 26 and has been thinking about transitioning from a young age; kinky and pansexual for a long time
11:00 labels in the trans community
13:00 when and how it’s OK to ask what the transgendered story is; only OK to ask about genitals if the person is a potential partner
18:20 prejudice within the poly community
23:00 poly and kinky overlap; etiquette with trans folks in the poly community
28:00 using the wrong pronoun; rude outings
Check out his podcast, Young and Kinky on the 18-35-age kinksters

33:45 Wrap-up
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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

The effervescent Ms. Bussel makes a case for open relationships

Hoorah to the ever-fabulous and sexy Rachel Kramer Bussel for writing a fun little exploration into polyamory in The Case for Open Relationships.

Know what I like about this article? She doesn’t come across as dissing monogamy at all. She says, “for many people, monogamy works just fine” and “if you are in a monogamous relationship, I encourage you to stay within the rules of your relationship, or speak to your partner, rather than simply cheat.” But she also quotes Betty Dodson (and how jealous am I that Rachel got to meet her!) as saying, “America practices serial monogamy with cheating on the side. It’s never acknowledged and it’s lied about.”

So true. If monogamy worked for everyone, then Jerry Springer wouldn’t have a talk show.

But it still always amazes me than anyone writing an article saying basically, “Hey, monogamy is fine if you like it, but here’s another option” still get ridiculously uninformed comments such as “I suppose you can make the case that sleeping around openly is preferable to swearing monogamy but cheating on the side. Well, maybe. Robbery is preferable to murder, too, I guess.”

Wha-huh? Someone needs to take a class in logic, methinks. But a lot of people did engage in some good discourse in the comments, so I encourage you to read them as well.

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