Lust & Marriage: a new play in Seattle

by Ron Richardson

Screen Shot 2014-06-08 at 8.03.20 PM“How many actors does it take to change a light bulb? Two. One to change the bulb and another to say, ‘I could have done it better.’”

It’s an old joke and one you’ve likely heard. But, in the off chance you haven’t, I thought I’d share it for context and to help you understand that when this actor says a show it good, it’s good. And that is just the case for Lust & Marriage, A solo show about monogamy, polyamory, and finding your soul (mates) by Eleanor O’Brien and running at Theatre Off Jackson through June 14th.

O’Brien tells the story of her developing sexuality starting with herself as a young child experimenting with sensations all the way through her as an experienced woman visiting Burning Man and finding a life partner among the one night stands. It just turns out that said life partner isn’t “wired for monogamy,” and so O’Brien’s development continues. She uses hypothetical letters written to, and answers from, Seattle’s own Dan Savage to frame the events of her sexual life and to serve both as her guiding light and mentor that she grows beyond as she finds herself among the dust, orgasms, and jealousy of her sexual/life journey.

The stories do involve adult situations and the very rare F-bomb is dropped but it is all done through the filter of honest exploration and character and is never bothersome to anyone who can talk about birth control without being embarrassed. And O’Brien manages to switch characters with skill and grace. Her vocal work impressively identifies exactly who is talking at any given moment. She takes on the persona of various boyfriends and lovers and the audience is never confused and always right there with her.

eleanorTechnically she uses music as a bridge between scenes, an effort that was slightly undermined by the overly high volume levels, in some cases. Aware of the issue as she performed O’Brien managed to project over the sound when she needed to but the effort was noticeable to folk with stage experience, even if I’d think most audience members didn’t mark those moments.

As the subtitle says O’Brien discussed non-monogamy with the knowledge of someone who has lived it and the humor of someone who hasn’t take it so seriously as to learn nothing while doing so. Poly folk in the audience will find any number of humorous lines just for them and wince at the common stories of mistakes most all of us have made. As O’Brien discovers, supports, and undermines her own limitations we are all taken along for the journey and it’s a very enjoyable ride.

Well written, well acted, and well meaning Lust & Marriage is a fine way to spend an evening with a very fine actress who’s willing to share the wisdom her life journey has given her. Get yourself down to Theatre Off Jackson and take advantage of it while you can. Monogamous, poly, or something in between there is something for everyone in this night of thoughtful, fun, sexy, theatre.

Ron Richardson is an actor, writer and director based in Seattle, Washington. His new web series pilot is Norm Owensen, Medieval Mercenary, tales of a modern-day SCA fighter who’s down on his luck.

Poly Weekly 253: Allena Gabosch, redux

More on being a poly pervert and sex-positive activist with Allena Gabosch, director of the Center for Sex Positive Culture

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Interview: Allena Gabosch

The lovely and talented Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture, shares more of her war stories of being poly, including lessons learned the hard way. Live from Paradise Unbound!

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Poly Weekly 252: Allena Gabosch

A smokin’ hot interview with Allena Gabosch, director of the Center for Sex Positive Culture

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Interview: Allena Gabosch

The lovely and talented Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture, shares the origin story of the Center in its current state and her own experiences with polyamory. Live from Paradise Unbound!

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Poly Weekly 243: Time for Poly Camp!

Quintus shares tales from the front of poly organizing and the secrets of what Poly Camp is really like

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  • Three Wise Women event is Dossie Easton, Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio on July 3, 11:00 a.m.-7:00 p.m. in San Rafael, CA
  • PolyCamp 2010 is August 26-29 Millersylvania state park with classes for people new to poly and discussion groups for those of us who have been around awhile, artistic workshops/classes, spiritual workshops, tribal interests (drumming and belly dancing), music and dancing, and more!
  • Poly Family Weekend is Sept. 17-19 at the Atlanta Airport Crowne Plaza with guests Jessica Karels, Simon Deacon and yours truly!
  • Shine, a Burlesque Musical is in Seattle, July 8-18 at the Theater off Jackson. Not only is this a sex-positive musical, it is a poly-positive musical. From some of the promo materials: “Count on the Wet Spots to twist the old love triangle story arc into some beautiful new poly-friendly configurations. Sort of like a macrame wall hanging. Made of sex!” Follow them on Twitter and join the Facebook page.

Interview: Quintus demystifies Poly Camp
Quintus (who by the way is quite hot) joined us to talk about what Poly Camp will be like in August and also about his own poly family

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Poly Living Conference coming to Seattle October 2010

From Loving More:

This October Loving More is thrilled to announce for the first time Loving More® will holding a
major polyamory relationship conference in SEATTLE WASHINGTON! Loving More is excited to bring this wonderful conference to an equally wonderful part of the country.

The PolyLiving Conference features a range of informative workshops from basic to advanced and from intellectual to experiential, covering topics both fun and serious.

Poly Living, orginally founded by the late George Marvil, is a place to learn relationship skills that support healthy polyamorous realationships.

  • Friday night Keynote,Concert and Reception
  • Saturday to Sunday- 18 Amazing workshops by nationally known polyamory facilitators
  • Saturday Luncheon

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Featuring in Concert Friday Night Bone Poets Orchestra
Bone Poets Orchestra (formally known as Gaia Consort) will be preforming in concert Friday following the keynote. Psychedelic Steampunk in the tradition of Jethro Tull, Pink Floyd and other hallucinogenic masters.

Poly Weekly #205: Catching up with Minx

This week’s Poly Weekly #205: Catching up with Minx.

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Chat: Catching up with Minx

Interview: ShibariCon newbies
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