A quick write up of one my favorite sex positive conferences in the U.S.
#CconOK Opening Keynote panel!
One of my favorite conferences to attend is CatalystCon. Why? Because it’s not a kink conference. Or a poly conference. It is a sex-positive conference that brings together sex educators, activists, bloggers, sex workers, erotica writers, pornographers, political advocates and more in one big ass event.
Why do I enjoy it so much? Because I get exposed to other’s activism that I would normally be blind to: Joan Price‘s excellent work on senior sex and erotica; Charlie Glickman‘s work on gender as a verb; Dr. Winston Wilde‘s work on psychotherapy for alternative sexualities. It allows me as an educator to take off the blinders and play in others’ playgrounds so I can be a better and more tolerant advocate within my own poly community.
#Ccon West lunch
Plus, for two whole days, I get to walk around like a rock star and meet people whom I only know by email or Twitter icon. 🙂 And I’ll admit it: being famous for a weekend doesn’t suck!
That being said, it’s difficult to encapsulate the value of the conference in one blog post. Since I wasn’t able to live blog or Storify at this event as is my preference (due to fatigue, not any lack on the part of the organizer), I give you this list of awesome stuff I learned at this year’s CatalystCon West:
Cool Stuff I Learned at #ccon 2014:
- Reid Mihalko does a really convincing Dr. Phil impression.
#CconSelf Marketing panel
- “Queer” (along with many other gender, sexual and relationship identities) is used to mean vastly different things, so it’s a good idea to ask “What does that mean to you?”
- You can make Charlie Glickman blush by treating him like a lady.
- There are a lot of really hard-working activists out there who need to hear that their part-time efforts, whether it be “just a blog” or “just a meetup group” are helping, and that that is enough.
- Clitorectomies were performed to cure lesbianism and paid for by Blue Cross up until 1977.
- There is a lot of debate about whether to use trigger warnings, and people are really passionate about their stances on it.
- Poly Weekly fans are the best, hottest, smartest and sexiest folks out there!
Poly Weekly live podcast at #ccon west!
Some people use “sex positive” to mean “sexually free” rather than to refer to an attitude characterized by acceptance and tolerance with regard to sexual identity, practices and needs. But Carol Queen wrote a great post explaining what “sex positive” is and isn’t.
- People who want to be sex-positive educators and activists really want to know how to protect their identities online.
- Rachel Kramer Bussel, Reid Mihalko and Charlie Glickman are the marketing goddesses of the sex positive world!
Cunning Minx, Dr. Jocelyn Elders, Lynn Comella at #ccon
What is going on in the sex positive world?
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1:00 Host chat
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5:00 Topic: Sex positive mojo at CatalystCon West
- Jason in Wisconsin shares how he and his wife came to get over the poly hump
- Herbalwise comments on the legalities of marriage from episode 354
- Vir asks about how to cope when a partner passes away
36:30 Wrap up
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Freshly returned from MomentumCon, a recap of the sessions on feminism, sexuality and sex-positivism today. Plus, using “what would monogamists do?” as a guiding question.
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1:00 News and host chat
20:45 Topic: What would monogamists do?
A listener writes in to ask how to act around her partner’s OSO (metamour) and challenges the What Would Monogamists Do guiding question. How much flirting is OK around your SO and OSO, and how should you act towards your metamour in social situations?
29:30 Happy Poly Moment
- Summersnake shares a moment of compersion when sending his wife off to spend time with her sweetie
- Don writes in to share compersion and joy at his partner’s meeting the metamours
Taylor on controlled male orgasms through controlling the flow of chi
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It is always my divine pleasure to present on just about any topic at MomentumCon, one of my favorite sex-positive events. It’s always chock-full of luminaries and sexy thought leaders with forward-looking ideas and insights. Great stuff!
My talk this year was a little more down and dirty. Based on the research you guys helped me conduct, I created a deck of guidelines based on the biggest complaints users made regarding sex-positive community sites such as FetLife. Without further ado, here it is: How Not to Be a Douche on FetLife.
Cunning Minx, Anita Wagner, Brian Ballard, Mia Martina
Back from the flurry of sex-positive fun that was MomentumCon, and there are just too many good vibes to squish into one blog post. Fortunately for you, I’m home sick with something I’m convinced was given to me by a friend I had lunch with just before leaving for the con. (Yes, I now need to beat him up as promised.)
If you’ve never been to MomentumCon (and you probably haven’t, since it was the first one, although if you’ve been to Sex 2.0, you’ll know what I’m talking about), you should go for one very good reason: you will fit in. Kinky? Great; there are sessions on kink. Vanilla? No problem; there are no kink-specific parties, so you won’t be left out. Sex worker? Perfect; there are always sessions on how to be, support or even date sex workers. Sex Geek? Oh, you’ll be right at home. Gender queer blogger? There’s a session for you, and you’ll meet a dozen others like you. Poly activist? You’ll love the sessions on poly and the poly-friendly atmosphere. Monogamous? No worries; enjoy the sessions on tantric sex or chat with a porn star. New media geek? Oh, honey, have we got sessions for you: panels, sessions and a Twitter stream to die for. Into burlesque, stripping, erotica, podcasting, masturbation, racial issues, identity issues? MomentumCon has got it.
In short, this is a con for whatever “sex-positive” means to you. This is a con that crosses identities, and it does it very well.
Want to know more?
- For a taste of what the con is like, take a peek at my pictures from MomentumCon.
- The slide deck from my own talk on Personal Branding for the Sex-Positive Educator. I’ve been asked to give this talk at several events, and I’m thrilled it always goes over so well!
- Also, keep an eye on the podcast stream, as I’ll be posting the audio from my own talk as well as the audio from the podcasting panel.
And a big shout out to Tess Danesi and Dee Dennis for putting together such an astounding event. The presenters and attendees alike were raving about it, and with good reason. This is a good one, folks.
More on being a poly pervert and sex-positive activist with Allena Gabosch, director of the Center for Sex Positive Culture
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Interview: Allena Gabosch
The lovely and talented Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture, shares more of her war stories of being poly, including lessons learned the hard way. Live from Paradise Unbound!
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