PW 357: How much sex is “normal”?

How much sex is “normal” in a committed relationship?

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2:00 Announcements

5:00 Topic: How often do normal people have sex?

24:00 Our advice for good sex:

  1. Talk about what you want and what you need; know the difference.
  2. Be willing to hear “no” and/or negotiate a counter offer.
  3. Be open to your partner’s/partners’ wants, needs and fantasies. Don’t shut the door before educating yourself.
  4. Get educated. Treat sex like any other physical skill.
  5. Consider your sexual health a lifelong endeavor and never complete.

33:00 Feedback

Jordy shares her concerns that couples are being bashed in our attempts to create awareness of couple privilege. Note: Minx accidentally referred to Jordy as “he.” And damn LustyGuy for letting me do it! Sorry, Jordy! You’re pretty. :-)

37:00 Thank you

Thanks to Eric and Benjamin for their donations this week!

Wrap up

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PW 313: Everyday ecstasy and thinking off

Why Ecstasy is Necessary

An interview with Barbara Carrellas, author of Ecstasy is Necessary, on making tantric sex available to everyone on an everyday basis

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Introduction

Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen

1:00 Announcements and Host chat

3:50 Interview: Why ecstasy is necessary

Barbara Carrellas is a certified sexologist, sex educator, sex/life coach, and sensual
revolutionary. She is the author of a new book on tantra for the everyday user, Ecstasy is Necessary She answers Minx’s and LustyGuy’s questions, such as:

  • Why another book on tantra? How is this book more accessible and less woo-woo?
  • Isn’t tantra just breathing together for two hours and not coming?
  • What is “thinking off” and can you really breathe your way to an orgasm?
  • How can tantra be achieved with our distracted monkey minds?
  • 16:00 LustyGuy switchover!
  • What about the science and medical information in the book, which is remarkably detailed and accurate?
  • Why is it important that there isn’t one true path to ecstasy?
  • Was it intentional that the book is directed at everyone, not just the kink and woo-woo communities?
  • Angergasms, screamgasms and feargasms

24:35 Thanks

Thanks and welcome to new PW Playmates James and Haddayr as well as to Tara for the generous donations!

26:30 Wrap up

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PW 274: Am I jealous?

Listener W writes in to ask: am I jealous, or is this situation unfair?

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Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:20 Topic: Am I jealous?

Wendy writes in to ask advice from the cohost team: am I jealous? She gets a certain number of hours a week with her top, and compares that to the number of hours his wife enjoys with him. She relays anecdotes of her top engaging in sex with another bottom, which was beyond the scope of their agreement, and with his wife, which was beyond her expectations. She relays a situation in which she watched the children for his and his wife’s anniversary trip, but her own collaring anniversary went unnoticed.

Is she jealous and how should she cope? Cohosts Joreth, Pepper and Franklin share insights and give advice, including making a list of the things she needs to feel secure in a relationship and how she would like for commitment to be shown.

20:40 Announcements

Poly in Pictures blog on jealousy – for a little jealousy humor

21:40 Feedback

  • Musqrat comments on the Sister Wives commentary from episode 266, comparing to a sort of institutionalized D/s situation
  • A caller who believes in religious polygyny makes a call for tolerance
  • DDog calls in to appreciate the term “anchors” from episode 260

35:40 Thanks to Earl and John for their donations

Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Poly Weekly 257: Is it all about the sex?

Is the dark secret of polyamory that sometimes it is about the sex with multiple partners?

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • MomentumCon is coming up April 1-3, 2011 in Washington, D.C.
  • Virginia poly meetup: Saturday, November 13th 4pm-6pm, Borders in manassas, 11270 Bulooch Dr, Manassas VA 20109, look for the parrot contact Grace: doyenworking@gmail.com, Becky: rebecca.loveking@gmail.com
  • Perverts of Color
  • SteamCon Nov, 19-21, Seattle

Topic: Is it all about the sex?

Happy Poly Moments

  • Thanks to Grace, Christian and Tina for sharing

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Poly Weekly 247: What’s OK in poly?

Joreth, Pepper and Franklin discuss what’s “OK” in poly

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Forked Tongue novel
  • Study participants 18+ willing to fill out a questionnaire and do a saliva sample contact salivaresearch@umich.edu or 734-763-7121

Topic: What’s OK in poly?
Today’s topic is courtesy of Friggin’ Limey, who wrote in with the questions:

  • Is it normal, or even OK, for me to feel the need to want to see someone else whenever my wife has a date with a lover?
  • When she goes on a date I do ask her if they had sex or not. Does this sound reasonable?
  • And from MinVanLib on Twitter: If the root of jealousy is insecurity, does one need to end the relationship to get secure first?

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 234: Sex at SXSW

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

Topic: Sex at SXSW
Minx’s impressions and experiences of sex, sex panels, dating session and general sex 2.0yness at South by Southwest.

  • Panel: Engaging the Queer Community with Trish Bendix of After Ellen.com, Bill Browning of Bilerico, Sinclair Sexsmith of Sugarbutch Chronicles, Fausto Fernos of Feast of Fun podcast
  • Queer Tweetup at Oil Can Harry’s
  • Twitter dating “Twating” with Jeremy Wright
  • Meetup with Nina Hartley–miss Julie Sunday, SexieSadie, Goose–stay tuned for full audio!

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 233: What is “sex”?

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

Topic: what is “sex”?
What does it mean to have sex?
How to apologize

Feedback
Mark Yu, Annie and Kevin give feedback

Thank you!
Thanks to Carlita, Kat, Fred, Jared for their donations this month!

Wrap-up
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First Chicago Pleasure Salon

Hey, all!

The meeting of the first Chicago Pleasure Salon will be Tuesday, April 7th, Villain’s at 649 S Clark St, Chicago, 6:00-10:00 p.m.

If you’re sex positive and want to meet other SP types, come on out!

Poly Weekly #192: Sex Positive

This week Poly Weekly #192: Sex Positive.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Poly Living conference
Sex Positive film series

4:30 Minx talks about the documentary she watched “Sex Positive” and her impressions of the documentary.

13:05 Minx Interviews Clarise Thorn, the person putting the documentary series, Sex+++, together
Minx and Clarise talk about how the series was started; how each of the kink or sex positive movements don’t always talk together; Minx brings up the various different kinds of documentaries in the series; Minx asks about the attendance at the events;

22:20 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Joreth wrote in and talked about how she showed her metamour how she cared about her; Robotic mailed in and talked about how his grandmother gave him a gift that exactly matched one that Minx talked about.

25:40 Feedback
Josh clarified his question about poly and teenagers.

Imzadi wrote in with a great limerick:

There once was a beautiful couple
Who decided to get into trouble
They flirted with me
And we wound up as three
And now everyone’s feelin’ the frubble

Wrap-up
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Review: The Liberator Wedge

Hey, there!

Well, I’ve been remiss to our fantastic sponsor, AdamEve.com, by not reviewing the fantastic sex toys and goodies they sent more promptly! But trust me, my friends have had a lot of fun product-testing this one for me! Indeed, couples were lined up down the street.

The basics:

Wedge The Wedge is billed as “the sex bed” you’ve always dreamed of” and “great for G-spot action!” And the idea is pretty simple: raise the luscious booty of your sweetie to allow for easier and deeper vaginal and anal penetration without straining the lower back or thighs of the, um, thrustee.

My question was primarily, “Is this any better than a pillow?” Well, in a few ways, yes. The foam is denser than a pillow’s, so it gives firmer support and won’t collapse under your body weight. And the removable cover is washable nylon, so you don’t have to worry as much about all that sticky Astroglide or Liquid Silk soaking into the cushion and funking up your favorite sex pillow. For a neat freak like me, washability of just about anything I own is a very big deal. Score one in that category!

Our product testers (yes, it’s a rough life!) said:

WedgeThe best thing about The Wedge is that it makes you want to brainstorm different ways of using it. In the end, I suspect many of the positions we found for it could also be achieved with an ordinary fluffy pillow or two, but there is no denying that The Wedge makes for some very comfortable missionary and doggie sex, with plenty of room for hands around the clit.

Indeed. Actually, the Wedge does come with a full-color booklet of different positions to try, so when the package arrives in the mail, you don’t even have to rely on your own creativity or fall back onto your favorite positions. Heck, why not try everything listed in the brochure, just to make super-sure you’re getting your money’s worth, right? :-) There might even be a few options in there that might just be a tad easier with the extra foamy support!

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